We’ve all had moments in life when we’ve struggled to feel worthy. Most people have a deeply buried feeling that they’re somehow not enough.
Have you ever experienced this?
This disbelief in your own worth energetically blocks positive experiences and keeps the wonderful miracles of life away.
Maybe you don’t think you deserve to live a miraculous life. Well, the truth is that the miracles you want also want you. They’re just waiting around for you to love yourself enough to feel worthy of them.
The bottom line is that living a miraculous life is really a function of your willingness to just let the miracles in. And your willingness to let miracles in is based on your belief in your own inherent worthiness. You can’t feel worthy of miracles without self-love.
It’s your time to start loving yourself and living a miraculous life!
We’re sure you’ve heard it said that no one can love you more than you love yourself…and people can only give you what you’re willing to give yourself. It’s the same with the universe – the universe will only give you what you feel worthy of. Until you develop deep self-love, it’s going to be hard for those miracles to show up.
So how do you know when you have self-love? Well, one way to tell is that you feel content and at peace regardless of outside circumstances. You don’t depend on someone else’s love in order to feel good about yourself. When you have self-love, you’re open to letting love in and you’re open to letting miracles in. So if you find it easy to let others love you, you probably have a good amount of self-love.
Self-love is an unconditional experience of love for yourself no matter what’s going on. It doesn’t depend on you being smart or pretty or talented or even a loving person. It doesn’t depend on you being anything. It’s about unconditional acceptance of yourself, no matter what!
No matter who we are, all of us were wounded in some way or another when we were children. Some of us were abused physically and some of us were abused emotionally. Maybe you were neglected. Maybe your parents inadvertently and unknowingly hurt you by minimizing the sadness or fear you tried to express.
Something happened to all of us. In fact, multiple things happened to all of us. We created false beliefs around those incidents by interpreting them through the mind of our childhood self.
In reality, what happened may have had little or nothing to do with our interpretation of those events, yet we’ve been living our lives as if those false beliefs were true. They may be things like “I am alone” or “I’m bad” or “I’m never enough” or “I’m too much” or “I’m not wanted” or “I’m not safe.”
I (Marci) would like to share a very personal story from my own life that created a core belief that I wasn’t wanted.
My mother, in all innocence, loved to tell this story frequently because she felt it was actually a wonderful tale with a positive ending.
But it had the opposite effect on me. My brother and sister are 10 and 11 years older than I am, respectively. From what I understand, they were a total handful growing up, often at each other’s throats, and my mother used to say that it was too much for her. She would tell her friends that if she ever got pregnant again, she would just drive off into the ocean.
Well, sure enough, she did get pregnant again—with me—and the way she told the story is that she was so happy she didn’t drive off into the ocean. She would add just how wonderful I am and end the story with, “Honey, you may not have been wanted, but you were always loved.”
Well, it’s a lovely message, but what I heard above all else is that I may not have been wanted— and so I couldn’t own the part that I was always loved. Every time my mother told the story, which was regularly (even the week before she passed away at the age of 88), all I could hear was that I wasn’t wanted.
That’s how I developed a false core belief about myself, and it’s shown up in many ways in my life — in my personal relationships, in my relationship with myself, in my work…For most of my life, I felt that I had to prove myself because, inherently, I didn’t feel wanted for who I was. That meant I had to create some amazing value for people to want me. As I’ve become more aware of this pattern and done healing processes (one is shared below), I’ve been able to dissolve that limiting belief. I no longer believe it’s true and releasing it has freed up my life.
I’m willing to put myself out there much more because I feel wanted for me, for who I am, and, most importantly, I want me! I don’t have to prove myself anymore.
One technique that’s very powerful when you’re feeling a lack of self-love, unworthiness, or any kind of emotional pain is this:
1. Allow your attention to scan your body and locate where you’re feeling a sensation that wants your attention. Emotional discomfort of any kind, regardless of its source, is experienced somewhere in the body. Once you’ve located it, whether it’s tightness in the throat, pressure in the chest, or contraction in the gut, that is where your body is holding the emotion.
2. Place your hand on the part of your body where the feeling is located and take a few deep breaths into it. And then send it love. You can even say to it, “Thank you. I love you.” This will allow it to begin to unwind.
3. As this process continues, the sensation will usually decrease. In some cases, it might increase as it’s leaving your physiology (body). To aid the healing process, you might want to do something physical like dancing or taking a warm bath.
4. Whatever direction the sensation takes, it has a message for you. Even a sensation that you might label as pain is really a portal to healing and wisdom. Ask what the message is. Sometimes it’s very clear. Sometimes it might be a reminder that you have the power to heal yourself, to dissolve old wounds, to love yourself into a state of wellness, and to restore yourself into a state of wholeness. Maybe that pain is a gift, and when you open it by putting your attention on it, you’ll discover that you are not only worthy of being well and whole but you are worthy of miracles.
It’s your time to start living a miraculous life!
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