What do you think of when you hear that phrase? Quite often, we hear it in the tone of blame: “who’s responsible for this?” What’s more, personal responsibility can be a real challenge.
But what’s the big deal about it? Taking responsibility for your actions is a significant and worthwhile effort that can drastically change your life.
Let’s explore the importance of personal responsibility and how you can take the steps to be more accountable.
What Does Personal Responsibility Mean?
Personal responsibility is being accountable for your actions. And when you’re faced with the reaction of your actions, whether positive or negative, you own up to it.
You accept the idea that you create your own life. You understand and appreciate that things happen for you, and not to you.
As we often hear, “you are 100% responsible for your life.” By accepting personal responsibility, you are in the position to choose how you respond when life challenges you. You are moved from playing the victim to being the victor as you’re put in the metaphorical driver’s seat of your life.
But, as with anything worthwhile in life, being accountable isn’t always easy. It requires courage, acceptance, and a realistic view of your life circumstances. Here are three steps you can take to start accepting personal responsibility.
What Are The Steps In Accepting Personal Responsibility?
With personal responsibility, it’s important to take what’s in front of you, make a choice, and take control. To be responsible is to be able to respond.
So, take the steps to create what you want through conscious choices.
Step 1: No Blaming And No Complaining
Blaming others puts you in the position of victim-hood. Complaining is just another way to shake off responsibility. Together, they disable you from making real changes.
Step 2: Don’t Take Things Personally
Remember, disagreements are not personal attacks. Try and see things objectively and rationally instead of reacting on impulse.
Step 3: Be Conscious Of Your Actions
There’s great power in being able to make conscious, calculated choices. Always keep your goals in mind and choose your actions accordingly.
What Is An Example Of A Responsibility?
Responsibility permeates all aspects of your life. Examples of this include arriving at work on time, providing for your family, and paying your bills.
There are times when personal responsibilities can extend beyond yourself.
For instance, say you gave your child the task of cleaning the dishes. While this is technically their responsibility, you also have a responsibility to provide your child with the knowledge and tools to do the job right. You’re also responsible for doling out punishment if your child misbehaves or disobeys your request.
Why Is Personal Responsibility Important?
Life presents you with many choices that can influence your goals, achievements, and success. Personal responsibility is important because it allows individuals to:
- Readily accept the outcome of their choices without holding anybody else accountable,
- Look back at the outcomes, especially if they’re negative,
- Create a strategy that prevents future mistakes, and
- Nurture meaningful relationships that are based on trust.
Responsibility is a two-way street. By being responsible, you set a great example for others to follow. And in return, they know what kind of actions you expect from them.
What Are 5 Responsible Behaviors?
Responsible behaviors are ways you can choose to act that positively impacts your life, your community, and even the world at large.
Here are 5 elements that are key to personal responsibilities:
Like you, others feel entitled to things that are rightfully theirs. Fairness means finding the right balance between your needs and the needs of those around you.
This element of responsibility focuses on the ability to face the truth. You should always own up to your mistakes and make amends if possible.
A responsible person accepts others for who they are. Remember that respect and compassion are reciprocated.
Being responsible means being brave and standing up for your beliefs and values.
Accountability shows that you are able to accept the consequences of your actions, decision, and mistakes.
Personal responsibility is not something you are born with. But it is important because it builds as you practice the behaviors that make you more accountable.
But in time, you can learn to take on more personal responsibility to achieve lasting success in your life.
Take Responsibility By Tending To Your Self-Esteem
Taking responsibility isn’t easy, especially if your confidence isn’t high. In a world of contrasts, conflict, and blame culture, it’s natural to shy away from responsibility in the name of protecting our often limited self-esteem.
However, it’s important to remember that you aren’t responsible for the circumstances outside of your control, but you are responsible for how you act or react to them.
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