There are huge strides taken within the world of females (which is definitely something to celebrate). And within all that encompasses it, ‘how to be more feminine’ is a hot topic of discussion.
Why? You see, the concept of femininity has different meanings to different people — this takes into consideration cultural and societal influences.
Traditionally, being feminine was viewed as embodying female characteristics like being nurturing, sensitive, demure, gentle, and warm, to name a few.
In today’s world, embodying femininity is less about the outward traits, but more about reconnecting with your true self.
So to better understand how to be more feminine, here are a few things you should know:
- What Is Feminine Energy?
- Being Female vs. Embracing Your Femininity
- How to Be More Feminine: 5 Tips by Rachel Pringle
And bonus: we’re bringing in the expertise of Sheila Kelley, founder of S Factor: Feminine Movement, and Rachel Pringle, embodied sensuality teacher, to help you get in touch with your feminine side.
What Is Feminine Energy?
Feminine energy, just like the masculine, is in all of us. It is fluid and draws on (to name a few):
(The masculine side, on the other hand, is more compartmentalized and geared towards focus, logic, confidence, stability, clarity, and assertiveness.)
When you embrace your femininity, you should be able to “play emotion through [your] body in a constructive beautiful way,” according to Sheila Kelley in a conversation with Vishen on The Mindvalley Podcast. Because, as she explains, “emotion is pure energy.”
Feminine energy vs. masculine energy
You draw as you need from the feminine energy just as much as you do with the masculine. It’s a yin and yang situation, and without the right balance of both, you can feel ‘off.’
“Your masculine energy is about quantity,” Sheila explains. It’s about how much, how far, how heavy, and so on.
Feminine energy is about quality — how you live, feel, move, express, emote, connect, etc.
So to feel worthy of yourself and live a richer life, it’s important to be in touch with your feminine and masculine.
Being Female vs. Embracing Your Femininity
There’s often confusion when it comes to being female versus embracing your femininity.
- Being female relates to the gender that can have babies, according to Collins Dictionary. It’s your physical body assigned to you at birth.
- Feminine personality, however, plays a part in the way you express yourself. It’s about deeply and authentically connecting with your mind, body, and soul.
The reality is, though, that masculinity has been put on a pedestal.
Movements have led women to be and feel empowered. But these progressions also have encouraged them to connect more to the masculine side in order to be taken seriously and succeed in the workplace.
“Stop your crying.” “You throw like a girl.” These comments have influenced the perception that expressing feminine traits is a sign of weakness. In doing so, it seems that many have lost touch with this side of themselves to a point where it’s kind of embarrassing to be feminine.
“We have identified strength through one gaze, one lens and that is the masculine lens,” explains Sheila. It’s often displayed as physical muscle and getting things done.
However, according to Sheila, many of us don’t understand that strength is also the ability to emote, connect, go deep, and go to a soulful place in life.
So how can you learn to see it as equally strong as the masculine? Let’s dive into how you can further embrace your femininity.
How to Be More Feminine: 5 Tips by Rachel Pringle
Perhaps you want to learn how to be more feminine in a relationship. Or how to be more feminine and attractive. Maybe even how to awaken your inner sex goddess.
Enter Rachel Pringle with five brilliant tips from her teachings on Mindvalley’s Wild Woman Sensuality Quest to help you connect with your femininity. No matter which gender you identify with, here’s where you can learn to show up as your deepest, fullest, most raw self.
1. Trust your voice
When it comes to femininity, many of us have been conditioned to suppress unpleasant emotions, women especially. Although modern women are encouraged to speak up, they are less likely to do so.
Here are stats from a 2021 Forbes survey on gendered ageism at work as to why:
- 77% of female respondents took no action
- 70% felt it wouldn’t make a difference if they did
- 44% of those who did speak with their manager were dissatisfied with the response to their concerns
Statements like “don’t be so emotional” or “that’s just crazy talk” are all-too-common advice females receive from a young age way into adulthood.
Rachel points out that these beliefs are illusions and falsities — ‘brules,’ if you’re familiar with the term. She suggests clearing out holed-up emotions by activating the fullness of your voice.
You can do so by journaling, having conversations, or meditating. By breaking them out of your subconscious and into your consciousness, you can harness the ability to speak your truth.
2. Harness your sacred masculinity
Where there’s yin (the feminine), there needs to be yang (the masculine).
The divine feminine force is wild. It’s unpredictable, it’s huge, it’s magnificent. And if we don’t cultivate our sacred masculine at the same time, we can often feel lost.— Rachel Pringle, trainer of Mindvalley’s Wild Woman Sensuality Quest
Because the masculine energy is stable, predictable, logical, and undaunted, the balance will help you feel safe. And with this masculine structure, the feminine energy that exists within you has permission to let down her hair and flow with full force.
Through journaling, breathing exercises, or meditation, take time to appreciate your masculine side. After all, it needs some self-care, too.
3. Cultivate your sensual power
Sensuality goes beyond what is encompassed in sex talk. It’s more about your sensory and sexual pleasure.
Now that begs the question: why is sensuality important when it comes to femininity?
“This energy is actually our creative energy,” Rachel explains.
When your sensual energy is blocked, your creative energy is also blocked. And, on the opposite, when you harness your sensual energy, you enhance your creative energy.
What’s more, a 2020 study provides evidence that sensuality is one of three components that play an important role in optimal sexual satisfaction. And that, as many of us know, has a great number of health benefits.
So find ways to cultivate your sensual power. Meditation is one way, of course. But you can also try breathwork and tantra techniques.
“Pleasure is our gateway,” Rachel adds. And by channeling into your sensuality, you “gain access to [your] intuitive voice.”
4.Dance with your darkness
Physical activity, like dancing, can help manage weight, reduce the risk of disease, strengthen bones and muscles, and improve your range of motion. Studies show that it’s even beneficial for your brain health where it helps:
- Reduce stress
- Increase levels of serotonin (the feel-good hormone)
- Develop new neural connections
Maybe that’s why the characters of Grey’s Anatomy ‘dance it out’ when they feel the stress. Or why we feel so good when we get down to the music at a concert.
The thing that our being yearns for the most is to receive, hear, accept, and love all parts of ourselves.— Rachel Pringle, trainer of Mindvalley’s Wild Woman Sensuality Quest
Now, the thought of losing your dance inhibitions can get some people running the other way. But what we resist persists.
“If we resist a part of us, it is likely going to show up in our lives in a way that we don’t deem very nice or exciting,” explains Rachel. So dancing allows you to embrace your vulnerability, break self-boundaries, and express your true self.
Need help connecting with, celebrating, and accepting the fullness of your shadow? Check out the meditation below. And when you’re ready, get out on that floor, you dancing queen.
5. Reclaim your power
Feminine power is so much more than being tough, continuously confident, or proving your worth. It’s about:
- Loving yourself deeply
- Following your intuition
- Recognizing and owning your worth
- Implementing boundaries
- Embodying your magnetism
The energy is subtle, yet a force to be reckoned with — like sunshine mixed in with a little hurricane.
Rachel advises that whenever you’re feeling low or disconnected (as it sometimes happens in life), create a sacred space and go through tips #1-4 again…and again…and again until you innately feel your wild woman sensuality.
Modify and make them your own.
Throw in breathwork or meditation.
Follow your body’s guidance.
Listen, truly listen, as your intuition becomes so prominent, you embody your deepest, fullest, most raw self — the you that you always knew you are.
Let Your Femininity Do the Talking
Whoever you decide to be right now, in this very moment, allow yourself to be uniquely you. Honor and celebrate all this you.
Embrace the gentleness of your femininity. Accept the strength of your masculinity. And trust your own magnificence to let them be in harmonious synergy.
If you’re unsure of where to start or curious to know more, Mindvalley’s Wild Woman Sensuality Quest awaits you. With Rachel Pringle as your guide, you’ll find yourself in an immersive and interactive experience to reconnect with your mind, body, and soul, and awaken to a blissful appreciation of the incredible human you truly are.