How to Set Your True End Goals in 3 Simple Steps

How to Set Your True End Goals in 3 Simple Steps


Setting an end goal that’s aligned with your authentic self can make for an extraordinary life. Here’s your guide to one of the best end-goal-setting methods.

“What’s your end goal in life?” is the question that goes beyond goal-setting. Because if you’ve ever achieved any goal, you know that it doesn’t necessarily lead you to happiness or fulfillment. You may find, instead, that it kickstarts the vicious circle of chasing one goal after another.

It happens because we often set goals that take us further away from our authentic selves. But the end goal definition implies that it’s what your Soul truly desires.

If you want to discover your authentic end goals, here’s what you need to know:

When you tap into your Soul’s blueprint, you can create the life of your dreams. And this is what the 3 Most Important Questions (or 3 MIQs, for short) method can do for you.

What Is an End Goal?

An end goal is a goal that’s unique to your Soul’s blueprint, and its achievement will bring you happiness and fulfillment. Simply put, the end goal meaning stems from one’s desired state of being rather than something materialistic or quantifiable, like a supercar or the amount of money in your bank account.

According to Vishen, founder of Mindvalley and trainer of 3 Most Important Questions Quest, end goals aim straight at what your Soul truly desires. “End goals are about following your heart. They excite you and lead directly to your happiness,” he adds.

End goals vs. means goals

Have you ever heard something described as “a means to an end”? This idiom describes a goal that helps you achieve something more significant.

So means goals are the goals you set to achieve… fill in the blank. In other words, they are sub-goals. The problem is, people set only means goals, which don’t bring them happiness and fulfillment. Or they confuse them with end goals.

Let’s look at the main differences between the two:

  • Means goals: They have a “so that I…” statement. For example, “I want to get a good job so that I…” These goals follow societal concepts of success or serve someone’s expectations. This is why they are temporary, adaptable, and flexible.
  • End goals: End goals are life goals. They are about feelings and following your heart. They give you direction and purpose based on your unique values and virtues.

Vishen explains that feelings often indicate what we truly want in life, and you want to strive to attain goals that bring you feelings rather than chasing things and material success.

By setting the end goals, you are allowing your Souls to guide you where you’re meant to be.

End goals are beautiful. End goals are the end result of being human. End goals are about experiencing love, traveling around the world, being truly happy, contributing to the planet, and learning a new skill.

— Vishen, trainer of 3 Most Important Questions Quest

For example, if you want to manifest love, instead of focusing on manifesting a particular person, you want to focus on the ideal relationship you want to have with your beloved-to-be.

man standing on top of the mountain

How to Find Your End Goal: The 3 Most Important Questions Method

Since end goals are a path to happiness, it’s crucial to understand the main pillars or sources of happiness. There are three of them — experiences, growth, and contribution. In essence, to attain happiness and fulfillment, you should pursue experiences that deeply ignite you, grow and develop yourself to match those experiences and contribute to other people’s lives. 

The latter is something that most people miss. But contribution is proven to increase your overall happiness and life satisfaction. Studies suggest that our brain is wired for happiness in response to giving. In fact, serving others is a way out of your own misery and suffering.

So how do you find your end goals? The answer is the 3 MIQ method — an outstanding framework that helps you identify your end goals for all three areas by asking yourself:

  1. What do you want to experience in life?
  2. How do you want to grow and develop yourself?
  3. How do you want to contribute to the world?

These three most important questions will help you discover your unique Soul’s blueprint and what it takes to live an extraordinary life. 

Here’s how to do it:

  • Take a piece of paper and divide it into three columns: experiences, growth, and contribution. 
  • Set a timer for 90 seconds — take no more than this amount of time to answer questions (below) that correlate to the three pillars. 
  • Don’t stop until the 90 seconds is up.

Column 1: Experiences

Question: What do you want to experience? 

It can also include other people and environments.

  • Think about the most remarkable experiences you wish to have in this lifetime. 
  • Consider your love life, relationships, and sexuality. 
  • Think about what experiences you’d like to have with your friends and family. 
  • What would you like your social life to look like?
  • Assume you have unlimited access to funds. What type of car would you want to drive?
  • What type of home would you want to live in? Are there any other things you dream of having in your life?
  • What places do you want to travel to? 
  • What activities, hobbies, or sports would you love to explore?
woman in the library reading books

Column 2: Growth

Question: How do you want to grow? 

It includes intellectual, spiritual, physical, and professional growth.

  • How would you like to develop yourself? Think about your intellectual life, for instance. 
  • What skills would you like to obtain? 
  • How do you want to deal with stressful events in your life?
  • What languages would you want to master?
  • What character traits do you admire in others, and which would you like to master?
  • How do you want to show up in social situations?
  • What are your health and fitness goals? 
  • How long would you like to live? 
  • How would you like to feel, and what would you like to be able to do in your old age?
  • Is there a particular aspect of your spiritual life that you’d like to dive deeper into?

Once you are done with your growth section, set aside 30 minutes daily to focus on growing yourself.

Column 3: Contribution

Question: How do you want to contribute? 

It includes how you show up in the world, your career, creativity, and charity.

  • How could you contribute to your family, friends, society, city, or even the entire planet?
  • What will be your legacy? 
  • How will you make the world a slightly better place? 
  • Which problem would you like to solve for the planet and humanity?

Watch Vishen explaining the 3 MIQs technique in the video below:

3 Simple Questions To Figuring Out What You Want From Life | Vishen Lakhiani – Video

End Goal Examples

The 3 MIQ exercise is designed to help you envision your end goals in life. Though they are unique to you, you can draw inspiration from people who experienced the magic of this method.

Experience end goals:

  • Travel to exotic locations around the world with my family
  • Trek the highest peaks around the world
  • Run an ultramarathon
  • Speak at A-Fest
  • Write a bestselling book
  • Create something that will bring people great satisfaction
  • Experience the most luxurious hotels
  • Motorcycle across South America
  • Have the most beautiful connections with people from different cultural backgrounds

Experiences are the best part of being a human.

— Vishen, trainer of 3 Most Important Questions Quest

Growth end goals:

  • Speak fluently three foreign languages
  • Practice yoga every day
  • Cultivate a body of an athlete 
  • Get a freediving license
  • Practice biohacking
  • Develop bulletproof confidence and resilience
  • Master communication skills

Growth is one of the most powerful tools to experience the full spectrum of being a human.

— Vishen, trainer of 3 Most Important Questions Quest

Contribution end goals:

  • Educate a community in poverty
  • Work as a volunteer in other countries
  • Look for meaningful projects to donate my time and money
  • Work as a volunteer in developing countries
  • Provide free services to low-income people

Your life isn’t about you. Rather, your life is about the lives of everyone you touch.

— Neal Donald Walsch, trainer of Mindvalley’s Awaken the Species Quest

Becoming Everything You Aspire to Be

We often chase goals that don’t come from our Souls — because we don’t know any better. But with the 3 MIQs, you can set goals in alignment with your unique blueprint. 

It enables you to get clarity on what you truly want to experience, how to grow to become the best version of yourself, and most importantly, what talents and skills you can use to serve the community.

If you want to dive deep into the process, take the 3 Most Important Questions Quest with Vishen. You can sign up for an account for free and start designing your experiences by unlocking a sample lesson from the Quest. In other words, you are just three questions away from living your best life.

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Written by
Irina Yugay