We’re living in a snapshot culture—polished Instagram feeds, pitch-perfect TikTok videos, and the pressure to emulate that picture-perfect life that comes with it.
The thing is, the “perfection” we’ve come to know might not exactly mean being flawless. Instead, it could be about being “flawesome”—recognizing those very imperfections and owning them, turning them into our unique signature.
Just think about it: If everyone were truly flawless, wouldn’t the world be too Pleasantville-like? Our quirks, our hiccups, the little idiosyncrasies—that’s where the magic happens.
Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani’s book, Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life, addresses just that.
It’s not just another book on the shelf, though. Its soaring popularity is a testament to how Kristina perfectly (pun intended) taps into this universal struggle with perfectionism, offering insights and guidance on the muddy waters of self-acceptance.
So in a world that’s chasing polished ideals, her book might just be the beacon you’re looking for.
The Story Behind “Becoming Flawesome”
Society has some truly lofty standards for all of us. But here’s food for thought: What if the whole understanding of “perfect” is where we’re going wrong?
That’s the idea behind Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life. In its essence, it’s a guide to being—what else?—“flawesome,” a beautiful fusion of “flawed” and “awesome.”
In the book, Kristina points out that the utopian version of yourself can actually be a roadblock in your self-evolution. However, these “imperfections” aren’t setbacks; they’re gateways to your growth, self-improvement, and ultimately, happiness.
Even science says so. In a 2012 study, researchers found that people who embrace their flaws have better self-worth and enjoy life more than those who always aim to be, look, act impeccable.
Imperfection is the driver of our evolution. — @KristinaMandLak Click To TweetPeppered with personal anecdotes—ranging from her childhood tales in the USSR to heartwarming snippets about her son, Hayden—you’ll also encounter myriad transformative insights:
- The urge to ditch perfectionism and seek validation from within
- The courage to remove the societal masks you wear daily, revealing your authentic self
- Strategies to tackle the looming shadows of self-doubt and fear
- A deep dive into the subtle differences and profound impacts of self-care vs. self-love
- Mastering the beautiful art of living without comparison and embracing your genuine self
“I believe that happiness is of the greatest importance,” she explains in her book. “But not only this—I believe that happiness must be actively trained as a skill.”
By the end of it, you realize that this is not Kristina’s journey of self-acceptance. Instead, it’s the ultimate how-to for embracing your flaws as well as celebrating and loving your unique quirks.
Becoming Flawesome Book Awards
Before you wave it off as “just another self-help book,” consider the waves it has made in the literary and personal growth communities. Here are some accolades to prove its awesomeness:
- The Wall Street Journal: #1 Best-Seller
- USA TODAY: #1 Best-Seller in the Self-Help category, #2 in the Non-Fiction category, and #12 in their overall Best-Selling Booklist
- Amazon: #1 Best-Seller in the Self-Help category
- Barnes & Noble: #1 Best-Selling eBooks
Clearly, it’s not a mere coincidence. The book’s wide-reaching impact shows that there’s a universal desire to discover and cherish the perfectly imperfect self.
As Kristina says, “The art to learning to be happy is not to ignore or not notice the negative or be okay with the negative. It is actually to learn to work with it.”
Becoming Flawesome Book Reviews
Sometimes, the best way to gauge a book’s impact is to see its ripple effect in the community.
From bloggers to experts, the consensus is clear: Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life is, well, awesome. They’ve all found that the book isn’t simply about self-acceptance; it’s a pathway to genuine success and happiness.
The world doesn't need perfection. It needs the real you. — @KristinaMandLak Click To TweetWhat others say
Here’s a list of blogs with reviews that you can check out:
- Own Your Family, known for their insights into biohacking and longevity, finds Kristina’s book an essential bridge between health and self-acceptance.
- Your Biz Rules suggests that the book can offer insights to help you juggle your professional and personal lives.
- The Chrysalis Brew Project praises the book for its deep narratives and suggests it’s a must-read if you’re looking for a fresh perspective on life.
- The Peaceful Mindset feels the book is for those embarking on a self-discovery journey.
- Peak Life celebrates the book’s refreshing approach to personal development.
- Lindsay Elizabeth champions the book, which aligns with her mission to empower individuals to embrace life’s magic.
- Many Firsts finds the book an enlightening read for those eager to experience life fully.
- The Inspiring Journal highlights five key lessons from the book.
- SOULOVE praises the book for breaking down intricate concepts into digestible insights.
- Shaping Change highlights Kristina’s lessons on self-love and authenticity.
These reviews show that, no matter where you’re coming from, Kristina’s insights have something for everyone.
Step Into Your Flawesomeness
It’s great to know flaws are cool. But what now? How do you start embracing your “flawesome” self?
Here are some steps to consider:
- Self-reflection. Do the inner work to see what you think your flaws are and why you feel they’re so. Remember to be honest with yourself so that you can start to embrace your authentic self.
- Self-love. Begin by forgiving yourself for what you’ve believed to be your imperfections and celebrating your unique qualities. This is how to truly be kind to yourself.
- Connections. A part of self-discovery is finding your community. Fostering connections that promote self-love and acceptance can offer support and perspective as you learn to embrace your “flawesome” self.
This journey can be a transformative one with the right guidance. Beyond exploring the enriching talks available on the Mindvalley YouTube channel or embarking on a personal journey through Kristina’s Mindvalley Quest, there is a treasure trove of wisdom awaiting in the pages of Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life.
When you’re ready to embrace the beautiful mosaic that is your true self, with all its imperfections and wonders, make Kristina’s enlightening book your next read.
Your flawesome life awaits you.
