Love is a many-splendored thing, and the way we show our love is just as great. Hopeless romantics, realists, and every love style in between, the expression of affection is as beautiful as sunshine on a cloudless day.
The question then comes down to this: which of the love styles are you?
Do you make grand gestures like Lloyd Dobler with his boombox in Say Anything? Do you favor fairytale endings like Giselle’s in Enchanted? Or do you value practicality like Amanda Woods in The Holiday?
When you understand your style, you may just find that you’re able to better navigate relationships and express your affection more intuitively.
As Dr. Seuss famously said, “We are all a little weird, and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” So, let’s dive in to learn more about your amour.
The 5 love styles
Love is universal, and how you express it is based on your love language. In fact, a 2022 study suggests that “learning to recognize and react to one’s partner’s love needs may be an important skill for building relationship satisfaction in both partners.”
Love styles describe the different ways people tend to think, feel, and behave in romantic relationships. Here are five common ones:
1. Adventurous love style
People with this love style enjoy trying new things, taking risks, and being spontaneous. They like to keep things interesting and exciting, and they show love through playful gestures and surprises.
2. Comfy love style
People with this love style value comfort and familiarity. They know how to open up their partner’s heart through small acts of kindness and affection, such as hugs, cuddles, and cooking their partner’s favorite meals. They also like to spend quality time together and enjoy simple pleasures.
3. Competitive love style
People with this love style enjoy friendly competition and challenges. They like to show love through friendly games, challenges, and friendly competition. They also enjoy proving their love and appreciation through acts of skill and mastery.
4. Romantic love style
People with this love style value passion in their relationships through traditional romantic gestures and grand displays of affection. Romantic gestures, such as candlelit dinners, surprise getaways, and bouquets of flowers, are just some of the ways they express love. They also enjoy being swept off their feet by their partner.
5. Music love style
People with this love style value music and sound. They like to show their love through music, such as at concerts and karaoke nights. They also enjoy sharing their love of music with their partner and creating musical memories together.
What is your love style? Take the quiz
A major part of knowing how to find love is asking yourself, “What is my love style?” Yes, any kind of connection requires you to give love, but it’s also important to know how you’d like to receive it.
Much like fight languages, your love style is an expression of who you are and what you represent.
So if you’re curious to know yours, you can take the Love Styles Quiz created by Mindvalley.
Here are a few tips to keep in mind:
- There is no “right” or “wrong” style. It’s common to exhibit a combination of these love styles to varying degrees.
- You can opt to take the love styles test on your own or do it with a partner, family members, or friends.
Remember to discuss it with those around you so you can build stronger, more fulfilling connections. It’s through these kinds of conversations that love is honored and respected, as it should be.
Love hard, love smart with your love style
As co-founder of Mindvalley, Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani once said, “Love is like sunshine. When it shines, it shines on everything.” And knowing which one of the love styles speaks to your heart the most can help you shine your rays of affection on the world around you.
If you’re ready to explore the art of love on a deeper level, head over to Mindvalley and check out our love quests.
- Calling in The One with Katherine Woodward Thomas guides you to break away from disappointing love patterns and attract your “happily even after.”
- Body Language for Dating & Attraction with Linda Clemons helps you channel the right subtle cues to light up your love life with irresistible charisma, confidence, and attraction.
- Finding Love With Integrity Dating with Neelam Verma is all about dating consciously to attract heart-centered partners.
- The Energies of Love with Donna Eden & David Feinstein provides you with the tools and techniques of energy medicine to heal the traumas of your previous relationships so you can show up in your new one with compassion.
- The Science of Great Sex with Dr. Amy Killen teaches you how to transform your sexual health so you can experience a longer, vibrant life…plus enjoy better sex.
With a free Mindvalley account, you can get a sneak peek at the first few quest lessons to see how impactful their insights are. You’ll also have access to selected daily meditations, like those designed to help you manifest the love you desire.
It’s like what Franklin P. Jones said, “Love doesn’t really make the world go ‘round; it makes the ride worthwhile.” So get on the ride and enjoy.
