Money Is a Loaded Gun
As Japan’s most influential money master with a literary empire of 58 books to date on the subject of Money EQ, Ken Honda is a living legend.
Closely mentored by Japan’s most influential billionaires, the globally celebrated Wahei Takeda included, Ken Honda has dedicated his life to helping humanity find financial freedom.
‘My father once told me that money is like a loaded gun…if you’re not careful, it can and WILL blow up’, warns Ken.
No matter how painful, stressful, or downright awkward we find the subject, we can’t deny that money, or at least our perception of it heavily influences our lives. Can money really buy happiness? Probably not. But while it may not guarantee long-lasting contentment, it sure as hell guarantees problems if you don’t tend to your money wounds.
How to Change Your Relationship With Money In 2021
Since it’s money that makes the world go round, we teamed up with Ken Honda to share three of his top tips to make sure your financial world spins smoothly.
We’ll be focussing on Money EQ over Money IQ — meaning that these tips are less focussed on the practical action-based steps say, paying off your credit card this year, but are instead orientated around the concept of healing your money wounds.
Your money wounds, also known as money blocks, are the disempowering beliefs and perceptions of money that halt their flow into your life.
That’s bad news for your bank account, but even worse news for your mental health. It’s where the classic ‘scarcity’ mindset originates from; it’s the home of both stinginess and gambling, as well as financial anxiety and splurging.
Luckily, it’s never too late to turn it all around, and working through these tips is a great place to start.
Now we have a fresh new year full of hope for the future, there’s no better time to get inspired and follow this 3-step formula to heal your money wounds.
1. Make your money smile
Ken Honda is known and celebrated the world over for his ‘Happy Money Movement’, said to have transformed the lives of millions.
“In order to attract money to you and have a deeply happy relationship with money, you have to make it smile!” says Ken.
The theory goes like this. You choose to either have Happy Money or Sad Money. The quantity isn’t important — it all comes down to your conscious perception of it.
Let’s say you have $20 in your purse or wallet. If you earned that money fair and square in a way that served others, the money is smiling. If you stole it or earned it via taking advantage of others’ shortcomings, it’s crying. If you said thank you when you received it, the money is smiling. If you received it unconsciously or ashamedly, it’s probably crying.
This links to the concept of ‘Arigato Money’, (arigato meaning thank you in Japanese), encouraging us to fully receive money as it flows to us with thanks, and fully spend it, with thanks. “Arigato in, arigato out, as money flows, and as it goes!” says Ken.
Give it a go. This simple process could work wonders for your mental health and offers a lighter, more pleasurable way to interact with your cash.
2. Cleanse your perception of money
Money in and of itself is a neutral presence. Contrary to popular belief, it’s neither angelic nor demonic. It can be used for the greatest good and as well as evil, and it’s our choice how we use it.
But you probably weren’t taught anything about this.
As children, we were born blank slates, learning about the world as we grew with eager, unquestioning, sponge-like minds.
Whether it was your parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, or teachers, your beliefs about money were given to you.
“Rich people are bad.”
“Money is a shameful/awkward subject.”
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
“Save, don’t spend.“
“Never ask anyone for money.”
“The cheaper the better.”
If so, don’t be disheartened. Most of us were brought up with a somewhat skew-wif belief system about money.
To remedy this, Ken Honda suggests the following exercise:
1.) Sit down in a quiet spot, taking some deep breaths and allowing your eyes to close. Get ready to use your imagination. When you’re in a calm mental disposition, imagine the concept of money sitting in a chair across from you. You may imagine it as a person, a shape, a color…anything that naturally comes to mind.
2.) Listen closely. What does it have to say to you? Is it angry? Is it ugly? Is it seductive or alluring? How do you feel about its presence? Who gave you this idea about money? Inquire about its origins.
3.) After identifying what beliefs you hold about money without judgment, slowly gather them into an imaginary ball of energy between your hands. Give it a color. Once holding this imaginary accumulation of biased beliefs, turn to your left.
4.) In another chair to your left, imagine your parents (or whoever gave you these beliefs in the first place) sitting with open arms. Physically offer this ball of beliefs back to them, returning it to them, proclaiming “This is your pain. It doesn’t belong to me, so I’m returning it to you now.” Release it fully and bow as a symbol of respect to your ancestors.
5.) Return to your perception of money. Look at the chair in front of you, seeing it now as fully neutral and cleansed.
3. Maro up!
The word maro is short for the term magokoro in Japanese. While a direct translation doesn’t yet exist in English, a rough one would be ‘the state of selflessness’ or ‘sincerity’.
When we ‘maro up’, we move from egoic self-centeredness and towards a more collective consciousness, where we feel one with others. According to Ken Honda’s most beloved mentor, Wahei Takeda, those who are in touch with ‘maro’ go on to create win-win situations for themselves and others, inviting miracles into their lives.
The more we give, the more space we create to, in turn, receive. As you raise your state of consciousness to that of ‘maro’, your desire to be generous and appreciative increases.
If you’re in a tight spot with money right now, it may feel odd to all of a sudden start focussing on giving. You may find it unnatural to focus on what you do have, as opposed to what you blatantly don’t. But if you want to ‘maro up’ and pave the way to receive more, it’s a practice worth looking into. After all, the more you appreciate, the more things crop up to be appreciative for…including money. It’s the secret behind forging an abundance mindset.
“Try it out and watch what happens,” says Ken, smiling.