We want to do that, go there, get that thing, and ultimately, we want to be happy.
But we often fail to realize that happiness is not somewhere out there, happiness comes from within.
And in our endless pursuit of happiness, we toil our whole life away without ever experiencing the true joy of existence — the real happiness.
What a terrible loss!
It shouldn’t have to be this way. If only, we knew the truth behind this. If only, we knew how to be truly happy.
The secret of this enigma of happiness is that happiness comes from within. It is an internal emotional state that you can create and sustain within you.
“Happiness Comes From Within” Is Scientific Fact
The emotions we feel on a day-to-day basis are all being felt by our awareness in our brains. Even when someone touches you, you feel the sensation within your brain.
So, if we look into our brains microscopically, we will find out that all of our emotions, happy or sad, are mere play of chemicals.
Neurochemicals, neurotransmitters, and hormones like Dopamine, Serotonin, Endorphin, and Oxytocin get released and received by different facets of our brain machinery to produce the different shades of happiness that we feel.
So even scientifically, happiness is an inner matter.
What Stops Us From Realizing The Truth Of Happiness?
Even after repeatedly failing to sustain happiness in our lives, why do we fail to understand the truth about it?
It is because of the faulty perception of happiness that we have been taught by society and culture from the very beginning.
We learn what happiness is by the rules, ideals, and parameters handed down to us by society and turn these into strong mental models. But all of these ideas are faulty.
They are bullshit rules or “brules” as Vishen Lakhiani, the author of Mindvalley’s Becoming Limitless program likes to call them.
We endlessly pursue the made-up ideals of happiness, instead of looking within to find what really makes us happy.
We keep thinking, as society likes us to think, that we need money, we need to get high paying jobs, we have to have family and children, we have to acquire higher degrees, or that we have to have a mansion in order to be happy.
However, we still tend to find ourselves unhappy and discontent even after getting all those things.
Yet another one of such debilitating mental models we have developed is the belief that we do not have control or choice over our happiness.
So, how can we transcend these limiting mental constructs about happiness and realize that happiness comes from within?
How Do You Find Happiness Within Yourself?
There is no single route to inner joy and happiness. Every individual must find out their own path to the infinite joy that resides within them.
But we can be guided by some rules of thumb that can be really helpful for the inner journey and realizing that happiness comes from within.
The first step is to unlearn the constructed mental beliefs and ideas about happiness and realize that you are the master of your emotional states.
You have the choice over which emotional state you will be in at a given moment; it doesn’t depend upon your external situations. It will not happen instantly. On the way, you will feel many hurdles and momentary lapses into negative emotional states. But even after that, you have to persevere.
The best way to deal with negative emotions is not to resist them. Instead, use the opportunity to explore the emotions by accepting and observing them inwardly. This will give you insight into your inner emotional workings.
2. Observe your mental chatter
If unobserved, the mental chatter will decide for you about the mental states you will be in. But if you keep it in check and balance, you take the reign in your own hands.
3. Unite with Universal Consciousness
The next stage toward reaching unlimited inner joy and happiness is to get rid of the me-centric egoic consciousness and get united with the universal. It can be done by raising the level of consciousness you currently living your life in.
The higher and more universal the consciousness, the closer it is to residing in the universal nature of joy and bliss.
4. Become limitless
The final stage is reaching the state of being limitless. In this level of consciousness, you will be able to bend your reality effortlessly to make joy, happiness, blessedness and inspired living the new normal for you.
So, do you agree that happiness comes from within? Do you have any techniques for accessing that inner joy? Please, let us know in a comment below!