Here’s the widespread theory on twin flames: at the beginning of time, we were created as one soul, which was split into two soul halves — male and female. And then, these two split souls would reincarnate over lifetimes to reunite. Once they finally meet, they leave the Earth as one whole individual soul.
Though this theory might sound utterly romantic, many spiritual teachers and healers reassure us that we are whole on our own. Does it mean that twin flames don’t exist?
Here’s what you need to know:
Let’s dive in.
Teal Swan, international speaker and best-selling author, explains there is no being that is separate from you. Also, this theory ascribes traits to souls that are more physical than they are energetic.
She says, “a soul is not a clump of energy, in the same way that a body is a clump of bones and flesh. To imply that a soul can be cut in two implies that it is a clump of energy. In reality, a soul is nothing more than a stream of consciousness. Streams cannot be cut in half.”
Also, this traditional view of twin flames implies that it happens between dual aspects – a male and a female. But a stream of consciousness isn’t dualistic.
In other words, your soul stream can be incarnated as the same gender as yourself, so a twin flame love isn’t constricted by gender.
You can view it as your mirror soul, or, to be more precise, it’s an intense connection with someone who mirrors you on the deepest level possible.
While loving someone is always an intense experience, twin flame love is extremely intense, challenging and profoundly healing. Because you mirror each other’s most hidden insecurities, fears, and shadow aspects, it gives you an opportunity to heal them and elevate your love relationship.
Dr Harmony, intuitive energy healer and author of Twin Flame Codebreaker, says, “a twin flame comes into your life when you are ready for self-mastery. They are present to bring soul growth and personal transformation.”
When we incarnate on this physical plane, we experience the contrast of loneliness and separation. But we also incarnate with the inherent aspiration for unity. Thus, we are wired for love and connection. We are wired for merging with someone to become whole again, and twin flame love is one of the most intense types of love one can experience.
How do you know you’ve met your twin flame? Here is a list of signs that most experts and twin flame partners agree on.
Barbara Spinelli, therapist and relationship expert, defines eight common stages.
Before you meet your mirror soul, you will have an awareness of them in the form of deep longing. You will focus on your inner work to prepare yourself for this connection.
When you meet, you will have a spiritual awakening, your life will dramatically change overnight.
Like in any other intimate relationships, in this phase, your relationship feels new and uplifting.
This will reflect the soul work you need to do on your own. It’s the stage when you focus on improving yourself, rather than improving relationships.
In this phase, your love will be tested. You will uncover your deepest wounds and insecurities, your attachment or avoidance issues.
It’s also called a stage of separation. There is always a chaser and a runner in many twin flame relationships. Someone will always pull away, and this causes separation. And this chase can go on for years.
When you accept each other fully and unconditionally, you will eventually come back together again. Needless to say that nothing has ever felt as painful and tumultuous as being separated from your twin flame.
This is the ultimate stage when you surrender to your divine union. You’ve grown more mature and balanced. You no longer question your connection. At this stage, you two commit to each other’s growth and move towards your shared mission of elevating the collective consciousness.
Spinelli explains soulmates are often described as a strong connection between two people that can be romantic partners, friends, or family members. Some use these terms interchangeably.
The main difference is that soulmate connection isn’t as intense and challenging as a twin flame love.
Learn more: Twin Flame vs. Soulmate: 7 Differences You May Not Know
Call it a twin flame or a soulmate, we are all capable of manifesting the most beautiful and fulfilling intimate partnership.
Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT, the New York Times bestselling author of Calling in “The One”, affirms that your life isn’t predestined but an ongoing creative process.
She says, “to create what you haven’t experienced before, you need to give up the idea that you’re a victim to a fate or circumstances. And your relationship with yourself is the first place to look at when it comes to manifesting fulfilling relationships with others.”
When you alter your relationship with yourself, your external world will shift accordingly.
After all, you are your own most significant twin flame you’ve ever had and will ever have.
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