I need to tell you about something that’s been breaking my heart.
Last summer, I took my kids, Hayden and Eve, on a two-week road trip across the heart of America. From South Dakota to Wyoming to Montana.
We fired guns at a range outside Cody. We camped in Yellowstone under stars so bright it felt like the sky was showing off. We sat at the famous Cody Rodeo while families around us waved American flags with a pride that made my chest tight with emotion.
The people we met were extraordinary.
At a local diner, the waitress gave us the warmest service and the best pie I’ve had in years. At the hotels we stayed in, we were treated with overwhelming kindness and sincerity.
I am not an American citizen. I was born in Malaysia. I run Mindvalley, an American company. But I’ve spent nearly three decades traveling across your country—from my college years in Michigan to speaking events in Florida; from tech conferences in San Francisco to quiet conversations in Ohio diners.
And here is what I know to be true:
The American people are not the problem.
The warmth I felt in Wyoming, I have felt in every corner of this nation. In so-called “red” America and so-called “blue” America. Among people who voted for Trump and people who voted for Biden. Among ranchers and professors, veterans and artists, churchgoers and skeptics.
Goodness is everywhere.
So why does it feel like you are at war with each other?
The rodeo speech that changed something in me
At the Cody Rodeo, the announcer stepped into the ring and gave a speech called “Why We Stand.”
He spoke of soldiers who never came home from Vietnam. From Iraq. From the beaches of Normandy. He spoke of sacrifice, of freedom, of a flag that represents something men and women were willing to die for.
The crowd went silent. Hats came off. Hands covered hearts.
And I thought: This is real. This love of country is real. This reverence is real.
These people are not hateful. These people are not ignorant. These people are not my enemies.
Then a second thought hit me hard:
Who the hell convinced Americans that they are enemies of each other?
I was manipulated too
I need to confess something.
For years, I consumed media that painted a certain picture of Trump supporters. I read the tweets. I watched the clips. I saw the worst moments replayed on loop until they seemed like the whole story.
I absorbed a caricature.
Then I went to Wyoming. And I met human beings.
They didn’t match the cartoon I’d been sold. Not even close. These were people worried about the same things everyone worries about:
Can I afford to get sick?
Will my children have a better life than I?
Why does it feel like the whole system is rigged against regular folks?
These aren’t Republican questions or Democratic questions. These are human questions. These are kitchen-table questions.
I realized I had allowed myself to see my fellow human beings as enemies—because it’s easier to hate a cartoon than to sit with complexity.
If I were manipulated, I suspect I’m not the only one.
The inclusion paradox
There is a hard question I had to ask myself—a question raised by philosopher Ken Wilber, whose course “Integral Life” is part of the Mindvalley curriculum.
He describes a strange paradox in our modern culture. We have a “leading edge” of society that prides itself on love, diversity, and inclusion. We fight for the environment. We fight for minorities. We fight for the oppressed.
But there is one group we often feel comfortable excluding.
Wilber calls this a “performative contradiction.” How can we claim to be the movement of diversity if we look down on half the country as “deplorables”?
We cannot claim to stand for “inclusion” if we hold contempt for diversity of thought.
If our tolerance stops the moment someone wears a red hat, it isn’t tolerance. It is just another form of tribalism wearing a nicer outfit.
We have to be better than that. True inclusivity means holding space even for those we vehemently disagree with, understanding that their pain is just as real as ours.
The machine that profits from your division
Here’s what I’ve come to believe.
There are forces that profit when Americans hate each other.
The equation is simple:
When you’re angry, you click. When you click, someone makes money.
When you’re afraid, you watch. When you watch, someone sells ads.
And when you are divided, you don’t notice that your wages haven’t kept pace with inflation while CEO pay has soared. You don’t notice that healthcare bankrupts half a million families a year. You don’t notice that the same corporations often fund both parties, ensuring they win no matter who is in the White House.
The platform owners know exactly what they’re doing.
A study from MIT found that falsehoods and outrage-driven content spread six times faster than the truth.
Internal Facebook files leaked in 2021 revealed that their algorithm privileged anger to such a degree that even Meta’s own engineers warned it was “ripping society apart.”
Ken Wilber calls this the “Culture of Post-Truth.”
It creates a state of “aperspectival madness”—where we lose our shared reality and retreat into warring tribes. When algorithms prioritize outrage over facts, truth vanishes. And when there is no truth, there is only power.
The division is not an accident. It is a business model.
And all of us—left and right, rural and urban, MAGA and progressive—we are the product being sold.
Then comes the second wave: The Bots.
A 2024 USC study analyzed online traffic during political flashpoints. What they found was chilling.
Nearly half of the most viral, toxic conversations weren’t coming from humans.
They were generated by bots. In some cases, bot activity spiked from 20% to 43% of the total conversation.
These weren’t Americans. These were automated scripts originating from Russia, Nigeria, Bangladesh, Pakistan, and Macedonia.
Think about that.
When you see a comment that makes your blood boil, when you rage at “the other side”—half the time, you aren’t fighting a fellow citizen. You are fighting a line of code from a server farm halfway across the world.
It is a foreign algorithm wearing the mask of your neighbor.
The bots are designed to make you hate each other. The actual Americans I’ve met just want the same things.
Something doesn’t add up
I’m not an economist. I’m not a policy expert.
But I’m someone who has built a life on questioning assumptions—what I call “brules,” the bullshit rules society programs into us without evidence.
In a “Post-Truth” world, b-rules thrive. They fill the void where facts used to be. So I decided to look at the actual data. And the reality I found didn’t match the stories I’d been told.
Here are four ideas worth reexamining.
1. On the economy
I always heard that one party was better for business, better for the stock market, better for jobs. It seemed obvious. Everyone repeated it.
Then I looked at the record.
Since 1933, the stock market has performed more than twice as well under Democratic presidents (NYU / Stock Market Historical Review).
Job creation has nearly doubled.
And 10 of the last 11 recessions began under Republican administrations.
I’m not sharing this to score political points. I’m saying: the story I was told was a “brule”. It didn’t match reality.
2. On immigration
I was told immigrants were driving crime and draining resources.
But study after study shows the opposite.
Texas—a state at the center of the immigration debate—found that native-born Americans commit violent crimes at nearly twice the rate of undocumented immigrants (Texas Dept. of Public Safety, 2024).
And in 2022 alone, undocumented immigrants paid $96.7 billion in taxes (ITEP, 2024).
They pay billions. They work in agriculture, construction, elder care, and childcare—industries that would collapse without them. Many can’t even claim refunds on the taxes they pay.
So if they’re not causing crime… and they’re not draining your taxes…
Why have we been taught to fear them?
Who benefits when we are afraid of the most vulnerable among us?
3. On healthcare: the freedom to fail
530,000.
That is the number of American families that go bankrupt every year due to medical bills.
In Canada: zero.
In Germany: zero.
In the U.K., France, Japan, Australia: virtually zero.
This isn’t because Americans are sicker. It’s because of policy choices made by people who benefit from the status quo.
But here is the brule we’ve been taught: safety nets make people lazy.
The data shows the exact opposite.
Countries with robust social safety nets—like Sweden, Norway, and Denmark—are hotbeds for entrepreneurship. Sweden produces more unicorn tech companies per capita than any region except Silicon Valley.
Why?
Because entrepreneurship requires risk. And risk requires security.
In America, “freedom” often means the freedom to fall through the cracks.
In social democracies, the government provides a trampoline.
When you don’t have to worry about losing your healthcare because you left your corporate job, you are free to be brave.
4. On the American dream: a personal warning
I was always told America has the highest upward mobility in the world—that this is the only place where anyone, from any background, can make it to the top.
It is a beautiful story. But I decided to look at the rankings.
The Global Social Mobility Index ranks countries on how easy it is for a person to start at zero and climb to the top.
The United States ranks 27th.
The top of the list? Denmark, Norway, Finland, Sweden.
The “American Dream” is now statistically more likely to happen in Scandinavia than in America.
So why do we resist the very policies that would fix this?
I believe it is because Americans have been manipulated into confusing “Social Democracy” with “Communism.”
And I need to make a distinction here that is deeply personal to me.
I am an entrepreneur. I love entrepreneurs. And I hate Communism with a fire that comes from my own blood.
The Estonian side of my family owned a farm on the Baltic island of Hiiumaa for hundreds of years. But when the Communists took control of Estonia in the 1940s, that legacy was shattered.
They sent a massive portion of the Estonian population to the gulags. My children’s great-grandparents were marched into a forest, lined up, and shot in the head. They were buried in unmarked graves.
Their sin? They were farmers who happened to own their own land.
This is a scar on my family’s history. That land was stolen, and it was only returned to us in the early 1990s when Estonia finally threw off the shackles of Communism and property ownership was legal again.
So you can imagine how I feel when I hear Americans screaming the word “Communism” at things that are clearly not Communism.
I know what Communism is. I know the smell of the graves it digs.
And I need you to know: A safety net is not Communism.
We need to understand the difference between three very different things:
- Communism: The government owns everything. They shoot you for owning a farm. (Think Soviet Estonia).
- Socialism: The government owns the means of production.
- Social Democracy: The government provides a floor so that capitalism can thrive. (Think modern Europe).
The tragedy is that by fearing the ghost of Communism, Americans have rejected the very systems that would make their capitalism stronger.
You can’t take big risks if the system is designed to crush you for stumbling.
When I look at my family’s history, I know that Communism destroys the human spirit. But I also know that unbridled capitalism, without a safety net, breaks the human body.
Real freedom requires a floor you can’t fall through.
The scripture I can’t stop thinking about
After Wyoming, I took Hayden to Ellis Island.
We stood at the base of the Statue of Liberty and read the famous inscription: “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free…”
I thought about my own family—immigrants who came to Malaysia with nothing. I thought about the families at the rodeo, many of whose ancestors arrived the same way, chasing the same dream.
Then I remembered these words from Jesus:
“I was a stranger and you welcomed me.” (Matthew 25:35)
“Whatever you did for the least of these, you did for me.” (Matthew 25:40)
I’m not a theologian. But those verses haunted me on that island.
I started wondering: What would it mean to take them seriously—not as a political slogan, but as a genuine challenge to how we treat the desperate?
Christ didn’t say: Fear the foreigner. Blame the stranger. Build walls and turn the desperate into demons.
So how did so many good people of faith end up cheering for rhetoric that seems to contradict the teacher they follow?
I don’t ask this to judge. I ask because the contradiction breaks my heart.
The real enemies are not each other
If I could share one insight from an outsider looking in with love, it would be this:
The veteran in Wyoming and the activist in Oakland are not enemies. They are prisoners in the same cell, fighting over crumbs while the warden laughs.
The immigrant picking strawberries didn’t move your factory overseas.
The college student protesting injustice didn’t write the tax code that lets billionaires pay lower rates than nurses.
The single mother on food stamps didn’t create a healthcare system that charges $800 for insulin that costs $8 to make.
Your frustration is real.
But the target you’ve been given is wrong.
And while you are fighting your neighbor, the systems that squeeze you keep squeezing.
What I’m asking
I’m not asking you to change your vote.
I’m not asking you to abandon your values.
I’m not asking you to agree with me.
I’m asking something simpler:
Be suspicious of anyone who tells you to hate.
Be suspicious of the media that makes you angry every single day—because anger is profitable, and you are the product.
Be suspicious of leaders who need enemies more than they need solutions.
And ask yourself, honestly:
Is my life actually better under the policies I support?
Are my bills lower?
Is my healthcare more affordable?
Are my wages keeping up?
Do my children have more opportunity than I did?
If the answer is no, then maybe, just maybe, you’ve been convinced to fight the wrong battles.
I dream of an America that finally lives up to its own giant story.
That dream doesn’t belong to the left or the right.
It belongs to anyone willing to fight for it.
Not fight each other.
Fight for each other.
PS: If this article stirred something in you—agreement, discomfort, clarity, anything—leave a comment below. Honest dialogue is how we start healing what’s been broken. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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I am so grateful for your powerful expressions. I do appreciate you invited the readers to check facts. I also appreciate the Vital human connection to “fight” for each, not the system that creates suspicion, betrayals of truth, and hate. Thank you.
Thank you for the insights on America. This is so true to even my country Sri Lanka. Today we are grappling to come out of the cyclone that devastated the country and we are being manipulated and brainwashed by media – even big global media houses who want to thrive on hate and make big stories which are not true. They thrive on hurt and putting people against people especially when everyone has come together to get out of the situation. Politicians are blaming one another instead of helping the people. They are capitalizing on people to get voted next time. Its media and politicians that have the power to change from negative to positive and its time that we have at least honest media that can change the world and its time the global order changed especially in a small country like Sri Lanka.
All really great points. But still not so simple. Have you investigated what happens to an American (or anyone else I suppose) who crosses over to Mexico unannounced and without clearance? Take a look. Wow. I was shocked. Pretty hefty! What I’d love to see is movement in the directions you point out here, to put us back into one loving, supportive Human Family. The globe being our home. Together. Hu(God) man. Yes, God in man, ONE LIFE!!!
Thanks for all you have created, taught, accomplished, and done for so many. My hat has been off to you for many, many years. Love, Gratitude, and every Blessing to you
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I wanted to add another angle, because what you describe is not only happening in America. I am from the Netherlands, and Europe is often seen as the model others should follow, but things here are shifting in a concerning direction too.
Healthcare exists, but the cost keeps rising and many people cannot afford the required personal deductible, so they avoid seeking care. We also have a serious housing shortage. Refugees often receive housing first, and while I understand the humanitarian intention, many Dutch citizens cannot find a home. My own daughter has been searching for more than four years.
Entrepreneurship, which used to be encouraged here, is now becoming nearly impossible. Benefits that once supported self-employed people have been removed, income tax is around 49 percent, and a new exit tax is planned for January 1st, 2027. Many entrepreneurs are preparing to leave the country before that deadline because they do not see a future here.
At the same time, energy costs are rising to the point where some people cannot afford to heat their homes in winter. The number of people relying on food banks continues to grow, and homelessness is increasing in cities where this was once rare.
The Netherlands used to be seen as stable and secure, but many people now feel financial pressure, reduced freedom, and a loss of independence. Which will be even worse when the digital currency (to which the Dutch said No but the minister said Yes in Brussels anyway) is effective.
So while every country has its own story, there is a shared pattern emerging worldwide. People feel disconnected from their governments, squeezed by systems they cannot influence, and exhausted by constant change.
And perhaps the most important reminder is this: the real struggle is not between ordinary people. It is between people trying to live their lives and systems that are making that harder.
If more of us share honestly and listen with curiosity, maybe we can begin shaping something better.
Not through division, but through awareness, dialogue, and courage.
I can’t believe what I’ve just read. My train of thought has just explored the possibilities of this blog. I’ve had these same thoughts while watching the news or an interview. I hope this reaches as many people as possible. I think this could actually help change the world. Thank you.
Thank you Vishen! I wish everyone would read this! Keep doing what you do! Ignorance is our greatest obstacle, if only people would listen to their hearts instead of propaganda, we would all be better off.
Hello Vishen and Friends on this blog,
I am also heartbroken at the state of our United States of America. I am privileged to have enough financial and emotional security so far to not feel threatened or afraid. I just discovered that my next door neighbor was deported a couple of weeks ago. I talked to his wife and 2 daughters who are forced to move out of their apartment for financial reasons and go live with family miles away. The girls will finish this year at their local high school, with mom driving them and picking them up every day. Their dad and I are good friends. He was deported so quickly he wasn’t able to say goodbye to ANYONE. For 22 years, he lived and worked here and raised a family, paid taxes, and took care of my yard when I was on vacation. I don’t know what to do besides vote and show up at demonstrations that express my wishes about our government and leadership. I believe in the 100th Monkey example that shows how we actually influence others by being steadfast in our practice and behavior without having to convince or manipulate anyone. I am semi-retired, comfortable and happily volunteering at local organizations. What else can I do to leave our country and our planet in better shape than I found it? I would love to meet with , be in contact with other Mindvalley and like minded people on Long Island.
Vishen, there is one other piece I feel compelled to gently point out, because it matters in a conversation about systems and ideas. You speak as though “Social Democracy” is something entirely separate from Communism — as if these ideas grew from unrelated roots.
But historically, that is simply not the case.
The term Social Democracy originates directly from the same ideological lineage that produced Marxism, revolutionary socialism, and ultimately Communism. It was not invented as some friendly middle path.
It emerged as a strategic rebranding of Marxist economic theory — an attempt to achieve similar ends through softer means. Anyone can look this up in the original writings of:
Karl Marx
Friedrich Engels
Eduard Bernstein
Rosa Luxemburg
The early German Social Democrats (SPD)
They openly described “Social Democracy” as a stepping stone toward the same final destination:
state-dominated economic life and the gradual erosion of private ownership.
This is not a conspiracy. It’s the published history.
And so when you, someone who genuinely despises Communism, present Social Democracy as something wholly separate from it…
…you are unintentionally repeating a narrative designed by the very thinkers you warn against.
And that matters.
Because if the roots of an idea are flawed, the fruit will eventually reflect its origins — even if the intentions are noble.
What begins as “just a safety net” has a historical habit of expanding, tightening, and eventually becoming something quite different than what people originally agreed to.
The slope is not imaginary. It is documented.
This doesn’t mean everyone who supports Social Democracy wants Communism — of course not.
But it does mean we must be honest:
The idea did not come from the American tradition of liberty.
It came from the Marxist tradition of managed society.
And knowing that history changes how we evaluate its promises.
I believe there is a simple way for everyone to turn the algorithms to our advantage. Simply stop reacting to any negative or hateful content. Don’t even pause or dwell on it. Focus on the stories or feeds that are positive in nature – literally focus on the world that you want to see. There is plenty of content that promotes the good acts that humanity is capable of, stories of cooperation, breakthroughs in conservation, demonstrations of peace, unity, and justice for all life on Earth. The system is built to give you more of what you focus on. Just compare your feed to your friends who loves baking, or anyone who is addicted to cat videos! Let’s use the algorithms to OUR advantage not the negative influences of the world. ✊❤️
I read this with sadness, but cannot judge America because of its situation. We see similar division here in New Zealand and I’m sure the causes are little different from what Vishen describes. Politics. Privilege. And perhaps, above all, the social media we feed by watching and reading. I commit to finding opportunities for open dialogue with all sides. To not hide away and ignore these realities from my safe space. Thank you.
Vishen, thank you for these inspiring words. I, too, wonder why we created this world filled with contradictions. I have hope, faith, and love that all things are working toward the good. The political polarization is here to open our eyes, ears, and minds to what could be different. As Bill Harris of Holosync Technologies said, “Chaos precedes a paradigm shift.” We are in the midst of the shift. Where we land is our choice. Abraham, via Esther Hicks, says to focus on what you want as though it is already here. I see a world where we grow from our differences. A long time ago, I saw a science video about grasses. There were squares of grass with different varieties, in the middle of the study there came a drought. The researchers could not continue to water the grasses. All of the squares of each individual type of grass died. The sections where the leftovers from all the varieties grew thrived amid the drought. As I look upon those I agree with and those I don’t, I remember this tale of the value of diversity.
I agree that we are divided by hate and ignorance and that the average everyday citizen just wants to make a better life for themselves regardless of which political party they endorse. However, you definitely did not do a deep dive on your “facts” that you presented. You may want to look into “How to lie using statistics”.
Yes, there are lots of illegal immigrants (using the word undocumented doesn’t negate that fact they chose to enter illegally) that work hard and pay taxes and have adapted to the culture of the country they are in. You did the same thing on your last post about being “afraid” of immigrants, again, no one is afraid of immigrants who choose to adapt to their new country’s culture, no one is afraid of immigrants who choose to work hard and be a good person, it has always been and will always be the small percentage of immigrants that choose to degrade their host country, demand everything change to match the country they just left, and commit the worst violence possible against everyone, including their own people that disagree with them. They are the only immigrants anyone has ever and will ever be afraid of or not “tolerate”.
Here’s a fact for you, over 23,000 people died waiting for healthcare in Canada in 2024, would you not consider that just a bit more critical than if someone has been bankrupt due to healthcare costs? What about the fact that there are thousands of people who can’t get the medicine they need in Canada because our “healthcare” system says it cost’s too much so they won’t cover it, those people usually die because they can’t afford to buy the medicine themselves or how about having Health Canada determine that that particular medicine doesn’t met the requirements so it is illegal and they couldn’t buy it even if they could afford it. Canada has even had to send Cancer patients to the USA for treatment because there was no one available to treat them! A 2024 poll in Canada showed 42% of people here would and do travel to the US for treatment. So you may want to stop using pieces of a picture to try and get your point across.
My challenge to you is to stop cherry picking stats and start showing the entire picture. Or what may be better is to just leave out the stats and post what is in your heart as it seems to be that you truly want people to work together to create an amazing life for themselves and others. Unfortunately it seems you still have an unrealistic idea of what the world outside of your own bubble looks like.
HALLELUAH !!!
Vishen,
Thank you.
Many of us know we are stuck in a system that has turned the rules against us. Warped the story. Tried to make it impossible for neighbors to communicate. I hear it everyday.
You have a platform and a voice. I am grateful you are using it.
We have been here before, in the 1880’s and in the 1920’s. It’s America’s bad penny that just keeps coming back. Maybe we didn’t hit bottom to crawl out of our addiction to worshiping the wrong people and forgetting that all the great teachers said to know yourself, look inside, be kind, be love, be compassion.
The hardest part is the sadness of knowing it just doesn’t have to be this way.
Lovely and well put Linda 🙂
Vishen, Thank you for the blog post and insight on how media is trying to influence division in America.
Vishen, thank you for sharing this. It really hits home for me, because it expresses many of the same thoughts and questions I’ve carried for a long time. I often share with my family, “There is nothing on or off this planet that can destroy love and humanity faster than humanity itself.”
Sadly, it feels like we’re on a path of self destruction. There are far too many bad intentions being fed every day and it worries me, especially when I think about my kids’ generation and the generations that will follow.
The “heaven” so many of us hope for, whether we’re religious or not, isn’t only in the afterlife. It exists here, in real time, in the moments we share with the people we love, in the beauty of nature, and in the peace we choose to cultivate within ourselves and toward others. Your stories remind me that we all get glimpses of that heaven throughout our lives.
I truly hope we can turn things in the right direction, though sometimes it feels like the systems around us are built to prevent that. Still, peace, health, and prosperity—things we usually say around this time of year, are really the simple formula humanity needs.
Wishing you and everyone reading this nothing but blessings and love.
Juan Z.
Thank you for continuing to share your thoughts on America. I am an American who has been with Mindvalley for a long time. It’s interesting to see how your views of America and our political system keep evolving. I welcome your thoughts because you offer an outside perspective. I agree that the people of America are good people. We deserve better. As a registered Independent, I often find that I don’t really want to vote for any presidential candidates on the ballot. You keep asking us to vote differently, and many of us want to, but the type of leaders we need do not end up on the ballot. This is one of the frustrating parts of our system is that there are people in control, whether by power or money or both, who determine who ends up on the ballot, and those people do not have the American citizens’ best interests at heart. They have their own agendas. Please continue to share your perspectives and if you can offer a way to get more caring, enlightened people on our presidential ballot, many of us would vote differently.
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This is incredibly moving. Thank you for your heart and intelligence, for all the feelings and facts you poured into this post. I feel the truth of it!
Kia ora from New Zealand Vishen. I was so heartened to see that you had turned a corner and realised the division your thinking and words were contributing to. Hopefully some of your community like me helped you to see that after your last few posts.
Beautiful insights on the need to see people and not left v right.
Unfortunately at the end you returned to it, albeit in a more subtle way, not as direct as the bots you talked about early on but with the same sentiment. Still trying to influence people’s political perspectives. What a shame. I came to Mindvalley as a sacred space for upliftment and self healing not low vibe political commentary- there are many other places I can go for that. Sad to say I don’t want political noise in my sacred space so Will be unsubscribing for this reason.
Vishen, your message resonated like a truth we’ve been waiting to hear as a nation. You named something we all feel but rarely articulate: the quiet goodness of everyday people, and the loud machinery that profits from turning us against one another. As a public health worker, a mom, and a woman who’s watched communities rise and fall on the strength of their unity, I see the same truth every day, Americans aren’t divided by heart, but by narratives engineered to keep us distracted and disempowered.
Your reflection is a reminder that inclusion without ideological humility isn’t inclusion at all. If we can’t sit at a table with someone who sees the world differently, we’re not practicing diversity—we’re performing it.
The real danger isn’t each other. It’s the systems that thrive when we forget our shared humanity.
Thank you for naming this with such courage and tenderness. You’re calling us back to ourselves, and to each other.
I didn’t read this blog post for several days after it appeared in my in box. But I’m so glad I did. This is all stuff I already know but I need to be reminded. I have fallen victim of the outrage machine. I know that looking at those sites lowers my vibration. I know that hate is wrong and destructive. I know I can do better. So, thank you for this post. I was in tears by the end.