They say that love is everywhere.
But why, then, is it sometimes so difficult to find your love?
It’s almost as if we have our hearts on lockdown. How do we allow ourselves to find the key to unlock this part of ourselves and embrace the love that we know is everywhere?
Sometimes on your search to find love, you can find it where you least expect it. You just need to learn how to pay attention and keep your heart open to receive love, just as much as you want to give love.
When this happens, it just might be love that bursts open the chain you have so delicately wrapped around your heart.
So, to help you find your love, the love that is all around you, I will share with you my story of “Old Man Eddie” — the man who removed the chains from my heart in more ways than one.
You Can Discover Your Love In the Most Unexpected Places
I live next door to an 80 something-year-old man named Eddie. I don’t know his last name, but Eddie has a special place in my heart. Lovingly, I call him “Old Man Eddie.”
If you would have asked me, when I purchased my home in 2017, if I would find love in meeting Eddie, I might have quite certainly said, “no way in hell.”
Eddie was a little nosey and his willingness to share all of the neighborhood gossip was off-putting.
I remember thinking, “Great, I moved next door to the neighbor who is always going to be ‘in my business.’ How could I possibly find love in this old man?”
What Old Man Eddie is teaching me about love
Here’s the thing about Old Man Eddie — he is always smiling and always happy. He is the first to wish you a good morning, loves sitting on his porch swing, and is perfectly content to read a book and listen to the birds sing.
He finds love in everything.
Eddie also has Stage 5 liver cancer.
One day, Eddie said he had one simple wish: to live just one more year.
Eddie is a man with a tenacity and vigor for life. He gives life every drop of his being. He still takes care of his landscaping, takes out the garbage, and does more than you would ever expect out of a man who is literally dying.
Eddie is an inspiration in many ways.
Whenever I think that my life isn’t going as planned, I think of Eddie: the fight he is battling, and how he still has a smile on his face every day.
This past winter was a doozy. We had more snow than I can remember having in a long time.
While I was out using my snowblower, I knocked on Eddie’s door and told him that I was going to clear his driveway. He said, “No, honey, I can do it.”
I stepped closer to Eddie, gave him a hug and told him that it was my pleasure to help him and he need not worry.
The gift of service
He allowed me the gift to serve him.
Little did I realize, this small act would be amazingly healing for me. Eddie had no idea that only months earlier I lost my brother-in-law to cancer, which happened to spread into his liver.
I had been holding onto the sadness of losing my brother-in-law and while I was clearing the snow, tears started rolling down my face.
These tears that allowed me to release the sadness of years watching my sister take care of the man she loved, the man our entire family loved.
How Old Man Eddie can help you find your love, too
Old Man Eddie is visibly weaker each day.
As I do what little I can do to help, there he is, on his porch swing, commenting on the weather, greeting me with a huge smile, and saying what a glorious day it is to be alive.
It’s amazing how the simplicity of what dying people care about can teach us about how to live and love.
I have found love in Old Man Eddie.
A deep profound respect and confirmation that every day is a good day when you wake up and realize you’re still here.
When you know how to listen, everyone is the guru.
— Ram Das
Who, perhaps completely unexpected, in your life could teach you something very valuable about love and life? Share your realizations with us in the comments below!