We are living in unprecedented times.
This means uncertainty, doubt, worry, stress, and mental health challenges.
In these times of crisis, our clients need us more than ever to support them and guide them through the situation, so they can still achieve their goals and dreams.
But it’s also important to understand that we, as coaches, are also going through the same changes and uncertainties, which means we need to invest as much time to serve ourselves in order to better serve our clients.
The truth is, most coaches are so keen and passionate about serving others, they tend to forget about taking care of themselves as well.
So if you want to help others thrive through the changes, you need to strive to understand your own mind and heart and achieve the ultimate goal of self-mastery.
Here are 3 powerful self-coaching skills you should practice on yourself and your coaching clients:
Self-observation is about being more aware of your inner world and identifying your thoughts and emotions.
This skill is connected to the Future You or Time Travel technique, a visualization method to create the vision of your ideal life and reflect on how to get there. It’s a great tool to discover the hidden truths of what your personality is all about so you can visualize the powerful person you can become in the near future.
Self-observation gives you an in-depth understanding of yourself and what you want as well as your definition of success as a coach.
Spare some time for a deep reflection on which should be the features you’d want to have in the future based on your thoughts and emotions and use that as your north star.
Bonus: It’s also a great technique to use right before you start a coaching session.
Something we’ll never be able to get rid of, especially in these times of crisis, is self-doubt because our judgment is always present in our subconscious and it creates an inclination towards it.
Nurturing a non-judgment approach in your mind will allow you to have deep mental clarity and reduce – if not eliminate – the overthinking mental chatter we usually have.
Once you overcome self-doubt, you will be able to express yourself freely and without judging your opinions. Because although you might not consider it, our personal judgments play against us much worse than the effect of other people’s judgment.
Discovering the core “you” without any barriers or judgment increases your results in the awareness process to thrive through the self-coaching journey towards becoming a master in the field.
Bonus: If you’re not sure how to develop the “no-judgement” skill and identify the possible barriers you are struggling with, use this referral guide of questions to help you discover these challenges and transform them into your strengths.
3. Conscious Responses
Here’s something interesting about facing challenges and crises. It all comes down to 2 options: reacting versus responding.
As human beings, the most common approach to any problem or situation is a reaction. No thinking, just doing.
Responding, on the other hand, is processing and understanding context first before giving an answer or taking action to resolve the situation.
This third self-coaching skill is entirely about controlling your mind to prioritize conscious responses instead of reactions.
Whenever you are facing a problem or challenge, take a minute to pause and reflect on whether your first approach is reacting or responding.
Identify the motivation behind your responses or reactions, the reason why one appears instead of the other, and the results they bring – or don’t bring – because of that.
This skill will not only help you manage yourself better as a person but coach your clients to understand this approach and manage themselves better.
Bonus tip: If you’re curious about understanding why your responses show up in one way and not the other, a helpful tool is first identifying what your true motivations in life are.
If you practice these three skills to coach yourself consistently, you’ll be able to master your mind and handle any challenging situation much better.
Remember you can only take your clients as deep as you take yourself. So invest some time on your own growth and self-coaching so you can be a better coach for those who need great coaches like you.
The world as we know it is changing, are you ready to lead us through the change?