Remember when you were a kid and your parents took you to the mall with them. You would dash from isle to isle of every toy shop, excitedly examining the mass amount of plastically molded fun and proclaim, “That’s what I like!”
Your brain would burn out of control by the sheer stimulation of all the toys. All the while your self-talking brain was screaming at you breathlessly, “I want, I want, I want”.
Trying to define your purpose based on the question “What do I like?” is like letting that crazed little boy or girl out from the past.
There is just too much to like to know what you actually like.
The Danger Of Chasing What I Like
Maris Peer spoke at Awesomeness Fest Croatia 2015 about how your brain will create what you want.
Your brain is your servant and will support any desire you have based on how you communicate that desire. So if you have mixed desires and keep saying this is what I like then one of two things can happen.
One, your desires are so fleeting and changing that nothing really comes from it and you never really get what you want.
Two, you have a collection of random manifestations in your life. You live a life of eclectic confusion and remain in frustration and despondency.
What I Really Like
Back to the little boy or girl running around the toy store.
The real value lies in finding a toy that you would play with every day and won’t let go of even when it is completely worn out and ragged.
This is your heart’s real desire.
Neale Donald Walsch has one powerful tool to keep your true desire in-check with the greater view of your life. Neale urges every one of us to always ask the question, “What does this have to do with the agenda of my soul?”
Do this for every desire and you will clear away the hollow excitement of false wants and refine the beautiful gem of your ultimate desire.
Only when your mind combines with the soul can you begin to approach life in a way that it makes any sense.
– Neale Donald Walsch
How To Focus On What I Like
Once you’ve truthfully had an answer to “what I like?”, it is time to refine the focus of this desire.
We are often our own worst enemies, especially when it comes to the prospect of keeping focused on the desires of our purpose. Interrupting self-talk, self-sabotage and internal pessimism plague the vision and execution of our desires.
We need our mind, heart, and action on your side. Let’s take control of the software in control of our success.
The Focus Wheel is the best tool for this job. What is a focus wheel you ask?
A Focus Wheel is a central idea (the desire you wish to enforce) in the circle of a wheel and in every spoke is affirming values, ideas, and statements which support and consolidate this idea.
Why is it useful?
The Focus Wheel eliminates all the hindrances of this idea and replaces them with only the most uplifting and supporting influences. Which will form a solid foundation in which to accelerate you to your ultimate desire.
“What I want?” Is not just a question answered of the superficial but of a deep dive of refining who you are and what it is that distinctly drives you into every avenue of your life?
If you would like to get a full grasp dive into more of the work of Vishen Lakhani, Founder of Mindvalley University.
What are some of the things you thought you liked but found out where just hollow shadows? what did you find was ultimately true to you? Let us know in the comments below.