Humans are naturally goal oriented creatures. From a young age our parents, teachers and mentors instill within our minds to set a goal and achieve it. They may have even told us which goals we should have.
Are these the goals that you want?
In this article, we will redefine how to set your goals and explore the process of achieving goals.
Common Mistakes With Traditional Goal Setting
Vishen Lakhiani, author of Mindvalley’s Becoming Limitless program, emphasizes that the most common mistake that people make when setting goals is based on what he calls the culturescape.
The culturescape is how society believes you should live your life. Your culturescape tells you that you should go to college, get a 9-5 job, get married and have kids.
The 3 Most Important Questions To Ask When You Set Your Goals
Step back and reevaluate your goals. Align them with your happiness, not what society has programed you to want.
You can begin by asking yourself what Vishen refers to as “The 3 Most Important Questions To Use For Goal Setting.”
- What beautiful human experiences do you want to have?
- What will help you grow and become the man/woman you want to be?
- In what ways can you contribute to others and the world as a whole?
End Goals Versus Means Goals
Another common mistake people make when goal setting is that they set means goals when they should be setting end goals.
A means goal is something you do in order to get the experience you want to have, whereas an end goal is what you actually desire. For example, going to college to get a degree in order to get a job to one day retire are all-too-common means goals.
By asking yourself these 3 Most Important Questions, you bypass the means goals and get straight to your end goals. You discover the goals that speak to your heart and your happiness to create an extraordinary life.
Invest In The Process, Not The Outcome
Now that you have reevaluated your goals, let’s explore the process.
Srikumar Rao, Author of Mindvalley’s Extreme Resilience: A Powerful Framework To Help You Bounce Back Every Time Life Knocks You Down, believes that the importance of goals are the direction they set, not the goals themselves.
When you focus solely on the goal, the process becomes very black and white. You either achieve it or you fail. This puts you in extreme mindsets of either elation or despair. You think, “I achieved my goal, life’s a blast,” or “I failed, life sucks.”
Instead, put all of your focus on the actions you must undertake to achieve your goal.
The trick is to invest in the process, not the outcome. Once you invest in the process, you actually enjoy the journey — whereas when you put your focus on a destination, you miss the journey.
This, in turn, increases the probability that you actually achieve your goal.
The power for creating a better future is contained in the present moment: You create a good future by creating a good present.
— Eckhart Tolle
What are your end goals? Do you have any tips on how to properly set your goals? Share them in the comments below!