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Sean Stephenson Shares Important Lessons From The Dalai Lama

by Mindvalley May 27, 2018

In the video above, international speaker, bestselling author, and board-certified therapist, Dr. Sean Stephenson shares 3 key points to better relationships.

After meeting the Dalai Lama, Sean had some wisdom he felt it was important to share.

Learn how Sean Stephenson defied the odds and discovered the inherent importance of connecting with others.

How Sean Stephenson Did The Impossible

The doctors predicted that Sean Stephenson would not survive birth.

They knew he had a rare bone disorder that would stunt his growth and make his bones extremely fragile. Sean did survive — but he also fractured his bones over 200 times by the time he was 18.

Despite his challenges, he’s managed to do the seemingly impossible. He’s managed not only to survive but thrive.

He became a board-certified therapist specializing in hypnosis. And he became an international bestseller of the book, Get Off Your “But.”

As an international speaker, he’s had the opportunity to speak in almost every state in the US, as well as 15 other countries. And over time, he’s come to understand how we can develop close connections and loving relationships.

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3 Quotes From Sean Stephenson On How To Connect With Others

Sean Stephenson’s insights came both from his own experiences and what he’s learned from others along the way.

Take a look at his 3 quotes below:

1. Create a safe and welcoming space 

The Dalai Lama has a smile that can melt an angry soldier’s heart. He smiles with his whole body. He has this playful wisdom to him, and it’s in his smile. When you smile at people, it’s a signal of what you’re bringing to their life.

After Sean Stephenson met the Dalai Lama at an event, he recognized the power of smiles.

It sounds so simple, yet smiles have a profound effect on how we feel about life and each other.

If you want to get through to someone, smiles will ease your interactions and inject more joy into every conversation you have.

2. Wisdom is valuable

Wisdom is about really being in touch with your intuition, listening to yourself, and not being afraid to share valuable advice to people, whether they take it or not. Advice doesn’t have to be taken, but it can still be given.

You don’t need to be the Dalai Lama to be wise.

Wisdom is not about how big your audience is, but how in touch with yourself you are. And in the days of Instagram and other social media, it’s even more important to recognize our own power.

3. Active listening is about receiving, not responding

Listening is not an activity of being quiet while formulating your response. Listening takes place when you put your life on pause, and you stop forming your response, you just take it in.

It can be so tempting to plot out your response when someone is talking. But it’s better to focus on them instead of yourself.


Because everybody wants to be heard. We all want to feel accepted. And the only way to create quality and authentic connection is to create space — a space where the other person feels able to open up.

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So, which of these Sean Stephenson quotes resonates with you most? Let us know in the comments below!

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