Someone once asked me during an interview, “How do you raise kids to share your beliefs?”
But here’s the thing — you’re NOT supposed to raise your kids to share your beliefs. The majority of the world’s population might not be ready to hear this yet but I explain why I believe this in the video above.
Why You Shouldn’t Raise Your Child To Share Your Beliefs
One of the most common misconceptions people make is about parenting.
So many parents raise their kids to be democrats or republicans, Christians or Hindus, spiritual or atheistic. But as parents, it’s not our job to teach our children what to believe.
It’s our job to teach our children how to think.
As I explain in the video above, the tools we have and the knowledge we gain keeps expanding. I didn’t have a cellphone growing up. Now, my children are surrounded by smart technology everywhere — smartphones, computers, and tablets. They’re growing up in a different time, a different place.
I wouldn’t really be preparing my children for the world if I only groomed them to inherit my beliefs and knowledge. I’d be preparing them for my world — a world relative to me. I’d be taking away their opportunity to think for themselves. And I’d have less of an opportunity to learn from them and the way they think about the world.
When you raise your child to share your beliefs, you actually can hold back the human race. We’re supposed to evolve and change. Your child is supposed to think differently from you.
If that sounds shocking, watch the video above. I share how I handled it when my 7-year-old son offered a belief completely different from mine (Hint: I didn’t shut him down).
The Path Of The Conscious Parent
As parents, we genuinely want the best for our kids. We want them to be safe, act morally, and be successful.
But how do we do that? The traditional models of parenting can actually stifle our children.
Creating a mini-me — instilling your exact specific beliefs in your child — doesn’t work. In order to raise confident, authentic, and emotionally resilient children, you have to become more conscious than ever before. You have to face your fears, understand your own responses, and stop projecting your unmet needs on your children.
These ideas were game-changing for me. When I was first introduced to conscious parenting, I felt really uncomfortable. I thought I knew it all. After all, I was the personal growth guy and my kids were doing good in school.
But after I interviewed Dr. Shefali, I realized how much I was still controlling them. Conscious parenting completely shifted the way I parent. Yes, these concepts made me uncomfortable at first but they ended up helping me create a better bond between me and my children.
Check out the interview that changed my life — and the lives of my children — here.
Do you have a right to raise your child with your beliefs?
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