Hard times: they happen to all of us. Even the most optimistic person can hit a speed bump and everything seems to gets thrown off course. It can leave you wondering how to stop the momentum on this downward spiral.
You can go from perfectly happy and having a great day to one thing setting off a domino effect that ruins your entire day.
If you’re lucky it only ruins one day, but if your attitude shifts for a longer period of time, you can start attracting more negative things into your life, dragging you down into an anxious, depressive cycle of problems.
Learning how to put the brakes on a downward spiral is easier said than done.
But you can try to dig your heels in before things get out of control, if you know what signs to look for.
Putting The Brakes On A Downward Spiral — The Signs
Pay attention to your thoughts. Are you trending toward a positive outlook or negative?
Are you feeling guilty more often? “Why do I make so many mistakes?” “I shouldn’t have wasted so much time.” “I’m a terrible friend/roommate/sibling.”
Self-critical thoughts are often a sign that you might want to stop and take stock of what’s going on. These thoughts start small but quickly start to become more irrational and detrimental, making it even harder to look for the positive. These negative thoughts have a tendency of becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy, but you can take the opportunity to right the course.
A good way of preventing and treating these thoughts are positive affirmations.When you’re in a good place and feeling full and satisfied with yourself, write a little list of things you appreciate about yourself and your life. Read over these when you feel down to redirect your negative thoughts towards more optimistic ones:
- I may not be perfect, but I always try and do the right things.
- I have people who care about my happiness and will help me if I ask.
- I am happy with the way I look, and I embrace it entirely.
- Anything is possible with the right plan and execution.
- My life is a product of my creation, and I am proud of what I have worked to create.
Be aware of how your body is feeling during your mood fluctuations. When you start getting pain in your neck, shoulders, and back, or when you start to get headaches or indigestion, it is likely caused by extra stress and tension you’re now carrying.
Release some of those negative blockers with a blast of endorphins and get a little exercise. This makes a much bigger difference in overall well-being than we’d like to admit!
Just 20 minutes of cardio like jumping jacks, butt kickers, going outside, and jogging in the sunshine will alter the chemistry in your brain just enough to give you the upper hand in trying to combat a downward spiral.
If you have trouble sleeping because your mind is suffering from racing thoughts, negative feelings towards yourself, or other people, listen to your body. It’s trying to tell you that it’s feeling the stress and anxiety of a negative cycle. If ignored, the anxiety of your problems can wake you from a dead sleep, making it even more difficult for your body to heal from the negative cycle of the previous day.
Try meditating or quieting your mind before you go to bed each night. Recount the good things that happened throughout your day and what you are grateful for.
Consistent practice will elevate your vibration and slow down your racing thoughts before bed just enough to give you some peace of mind to get a good night’s sleep.
Bad day at work? You need a drink!
Problems in your relationship? Go get wasted with your friends!
Let’s be honest, turning to alcohol hardly ever has any positive effects on our problems. It just sends you into work hungover the next day or facilitates a drunk dial to your ex. All the drinks do is eliminate our proper judgment and make it so we don’t even feel bad about it… until later when the guilt hits. Maybe you deal with this by gorging yourself with greasy, palate-pleasing, trans fats or mouthwatering artificial sugar.
Whatever they are, the best thing you can do is try and replace these unhealthy coping mechanisms. Science tells us that the necessary vitamins and nutrients in fresh food actually revitalize you and give you energy.
How many energetic people do you see feeling self-loathing and pessimistic? Your body houses all your problems, give it the best chance at fighting depression, anxiety and stress by taking care of it!
You can get out of a downward spiral, but it takes determined effort. But do it . You’re worth it.
What are some healthy practices you use to cope when experiencing a hard time?
We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.