The world needs more friends — and sometimes, all it takes to make new friendships is a little awkwardness. Good friends are not only fun to be around; they are also powerful sources of influence. Whether we realize it or not, the people we surround ourselves with, eat brunch with, see films with, and grab coffee with all have a subtle impact on our life’s path — for better or worse.
The Surprising Influence Of Our Friends And Their Friends
Incredible entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.”
But he was wrong.
You’re NOT just the average of the five people you spend most of your time with. Yes, our closest friends matter but so do people outside of our immediate circle. Research shows that not only do our friends influence us, but friends of friends influence us.
Of course, most of our close friends are those that make us happy, understand us, relate to us, and energize us. But if you’ve found yourself in something of a friendship rut, it may be time to branch out and make a new friend (or two).
By making new friends, you hopefully end up with a stronger community and with more excellent friendships. These relationships are the strongest predictors of how likely you are to succeed, to live long, and to be happy.
So it’s time to be intentional and open to meeting the people we’d like to bring into our lives.
What Children Can Teach Us About Making Friends
Children are the best examples of allowing new friendships to occur organically. They naturally make friends: in the playground, at neighbors’ houses, at school. This is because children have no ego; they aren’t afraid to strike up a conversation with their fellow sandpit-dweller or say something silly to get a laugh.
Forging good friendships as an adult, on the other hand, can be slightly more fear-inducing — even though strong relationships have been shown to be the key to happiness.
But according to Kid President, creating good friendships simply comes down to biting the bullet and embracing the awkwardness.
From this heartwarming video we learn:
- How to put ourselves out there, so that we can make meaningful friendships;
- How to bridge cultural differences to share a connection;
- That we’re more than just our labels;
- That our differences don’t make us “bad,” they make us unique.
Let’s face it: it takes courage to make the first move, whether it’s with a love interest or a potential friend. But as with romantic relationships, a moment of awkwardness for a lifelong bond is far worth it.
After all, as Goethe says, “Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”
Check out Kid President’s adorable video above, and discover his favorite tips for making friends — whether you’re younger or older.
This video was originally published on the SoulPancake YouTube channel.
How do you cultivate new friendships with others? Share your experiences in the comments below.