Toxic people can be energy vampires. They can take your time, love, and attention without regard or appreciation.
You’ve likely experienced some form of a toxic relationship — whether with a family member, ex, friend, or coworker. Sometimes, recognizing toxic people is easy and forming a relationship with them can be avoided.
But often, these types of people are initially unrecognizable and, sometimes, unavoidable. And navigating a relationship with a toxic person can be difficult.
These negative relationships can, eventually, hinder your health, happiness, and personal growth.
So, how can you start moving on from a toxic relationship and move toward the life you deserve? How can you tactfully take back control of your time, energy, and life?
3 Ways To Start Moving On
Although toxic relationships can be uncomfortable, and even harmful, with the right perspective they can be valuable lessons. These relationships can teach you how to move on with your life and develop a strong sense of self-worth.
As the saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.”
That being said, making the initial change to distance and protect yourself from an unhealthy relationship can be difficult.
Here are 3 things you can do to learn how to move on toward the life of your dreams.
1. Change who you surround yourself with
You are the average of the 5 people you most associate with.
— Tim Ferriss
Whether you like it or not, the people you surround yourself with influence your life choices.
Perhaps you’ve heard something along these lines before (many successful people share this same message), but the reality of this is actually far deeper.
Science has shown that you are even influenced by the friends of your friends (even if you don’t know them). For instance, if a friend of a friend of a friend is happy with their life, you are 6% more likely to be happy with your life!
Will Smith even says, “Look at your five closest friends. Those five friends are who you are. If you don’t like who you are, then you know what to do…”
So, start hanging out with people who are more aligned with your mindset and values; the people who inspire you to grow and chase your dreams.
2. Try new things
Novel experiences inspire new ways of thinking. So, changing up your routine can greatly support your effort in moving on from a toxic relationship.
This will aid your personal growth and can help you meet people who think more like you. Plus, taking up new hobbies can also provide opportunities to care for yourself.
The outdoors offers many options for self care — whether you are seeking quiet and introspective time to yourself (hiking), social interaction (swimming or biking), or adventure (snowboarding or rock-climbing).
And as an added bonus, spending time in nature can improve your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing.
If you’re really looking to spice it up, try traveling to a different country and immersing yourself into a whole new culture.
3. Embrace forgiveness
Above all, practicing empathy and forgiveness is the most powerful course of action to free yourself from the weight of a toxic relationship.
When you can let go of all the negative emotions that have arisen from a toxic relationship and turn the experience into a lesson on learning how to move on, you can begin to create the life of your dreams. You can look at these relationships as fertilizer for your personal growth.
In understanding and forgiving yourself and others, you turn your pain into wisdom.
To learn more about the power of forgiveness, how to forgive yourself and others, and much more, check out our guide on all things forgiveness.
Have you freed yourself from an unhealthy relationship lately? How do you feel now? Share with us in a comment below!