Loneliness is increasingly being considered a hazard to human health. Comparable to obesity and smoking.
In fact, according to a study from the British Red Cross, over nine million people in the UK (almost one fifth of the population) feel lonely. And one in four Americans have no confidantes at all, according to another published study.
That’s why it’s imperative that we learn how to acknowledge that companionship and love will find a way to us, if we just step out of the way and let it happen.
Loneliness Is A State Of Mind
Feeling lonely is sometimes natural, especially during times of grief, illness, divorce, financial strain, moving to a new place, or during a spiritual awakening.
But when this state of being becomes chronic and starts to affect our lives, it becomes a major problem that has to be dealt with to ensure our health and life satisfaction.
Loneliness, it should be noted, is not necessarily being alone, but feeling alone and isolated.
There are people who enjoy being alone and don’t feel lonely, and these are usually people who have found peace in the natural development of their lives and don’t need social validation to make them feel complete.
But, most people who feel alone and lonely fall into two categories:
- Those who have limited or no social contact
- Those who have social contact, or are constantly surrounded by crowds, yet still feel a great sense of incompleteness, insecurity, and ungroundedness.
If you fall in the latter two categories, don’t despair! There are ways out of your feelings of loneliness.
As a matter of fact, following are 7 powerful tools you can start using to experience a sense of belonging and understanding as to how love will find a way into your life.
1. Acknowledge Your Reality
Acknowledging our reality can be difficult, because we are so used to going through life wearing masks and pretending to be what we are not.
To overcome your feelings of loneliness and experience how meaningful connections and love will find a way to you, it’s crucial that you stop holding on to a different reality than the one you are actually living through.
For example, stop pretending that the hundreds of your social media friends are real friends, because they’re not.
Doing this will enable you to start creating a realistic plan to move on from where you’re now (lonely), to where you desire to be (meaningfully connected with others).
2. Accept Yourself
This can be a tough one, because of all your unrealized dreams and goals that have not yet materialized, and which you might even feel have passed you by.
Maybe you dreamed of becoming a great athlete, or a world renowned dancer. Maybe your dream was to become a parent and that has not yet happened either.
Your unfulfilled dreams might have left you in a perpetual state of emotional suffering, experiencing the pain of feeling separate, misunderstood, and disconnected.
Because of the scars of these regrets you might have chosen to retreat from life.
You’re scared of bearing yourself to others, of being judged and found lacking, or opening up and trusting that love will find a way to you, if you let it.
But life doesn’t have to be that way for you, because whatever happened or didn’t happen in your life, was preparing you for the love and connection that awaits you now.
If you can just accept yourself, scars and all, and realize that a life connected with others is far better than a lonely life mired in guilt, shame, and regret.
3. Set The Intention Of Moving On From The Past
To experience how love will find a way to flow and manifest meaningful connections into your life, it’s absolutely necessary that you set an intention for yourself that you’re ready to move on from the past.
Setting this intention will create a chain reaction within you that’s geared to a life filled with acceptance, love, and purpose.
To proceed, you will have to learn how to forgive yourself first, because not doing this can prevent you from attracting what you desire.
Stop trying too hard to make connections with others and effortlessly allow the adage
‘love will find a way’ to work for you.
Surrender to what is and let your life unfold serendipitously.
Surrender is not giving up or accepting defeat. It’s letting go of control and becoming comfortable with uncertainty.
And contrary to what you might think, it can actually be the magical factor that facilitates and relieves your feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Which brings us to the next important step.
5. Trust The Universe
No matter what you’ve been through or are currently going through, trust that the universe has a greater plan for you which will unfold in time.
Open your heart and trust that at the right time, love will find a way into your life.
It’s important that you recognize, the universe is not an external force, but is within yourself.
This will help you to overcome the helpless mentality of a victim and empower you to take the necessary steps to create the meaningful social life you desire for yourself.
6. Share Your Talents & Passions With Others
Stop waiting for someone to show up or for something to happen in your life for you to come out of your shell.
Take the reins of your life and create your own desired reality.
Consider what you’re good at, what you love, or what made your heart sing in your younger years.
Then, find your tribe.
Those people with whom you share similar interests and values.
Whether you love spending time with children, cooking, dancing, acting, playing sports, or practicing meditation, there are people near you who love those same things too.
And one of the easiest ways to connect with them, is through Meetup Groups.
Check them out and if none meet your expectations, consider creating your own Meetup group to experience how community and love will find a way into your life.
7. Cultivate Patience
Think about it, would you like to attract a needy and desperate person into your life, who constantly needs validation and praise?
No healthy adult wants to let someone into their life who is going to cling on to them and suffocate the life out of them.
It’s time to dump your desperate act and start cultivating patience because good things really do come to those who wait.
Love will find a way into your life if you can just be still for a little while and allow it.
It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it.
― W. Somerset Maugham
Stop selling yourself short.
Don’t let despair drive you into passionless, mediocre desperation relationships that are bound to leave you feeling dissatisfied and trapped.
Have faith that no matter how lonely you feel now, the right people will find you at the right time and in the right place.
Just remember to clear your emotional space by giving up the fake friends and relationships, and create positive space within you to be filled by those you truly desire to meet.
In the meantime, put down your phone, switch off your T.V. and go out there and start truly experiencing the miracle of “love will find a way”.
Share with us in the comment section below some steps you might have taken to overcome your feelings of loneliness and isolation.