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How To Be Social And Improve Your Social Life

by Mindvalley May 22, 2019

Being social can be beneficial in all areas of life. Your family life and relationships with friends and partners are largely dependent on your social skills.

What’s more, good social skills are becoming increasingly important in professional settings. More and more employers value social skills in their new hires.

But what if our skills are lacking? Can we learn how to be social?

The good news is that social skills can be learned just like any other skill or trade. They can be practiced, honed, and mastered through effort and dedication.

What Does It Mean To Be Social?

People who are open, accepting, and friendly toward others are considered to be sociable. They’re unafraid to strike up a conversation with someone they don’t know and often thrive in social settings like parties, events, and get-togethers.

Highly social people have comprehensive verbal and non-verbal social skills. They know how to talk to people and take non-verbal cues a bit better than most.

Social individuals find it easier to establish rapport with other people, especially those they aren’t familiar with.

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How to be more social

There is a powerful correlation between the warmth of your friendships, health, happiness,  financial success, and even the length of your life.

—Jon Butcher, Author of Mindvalley’s Lifebook Quest

Good social skills can help you unlock your full potential in all twelve Lifebook categories.

But the truth is: social skills are not inborn or hereditary. They are acquired over time. The only thing that separates people with high social skills from others is time spent honing skills.

This means that anyone can learn to be more social and have better interpersonal relationships.

So, what the best way to learn how to improve social skills?

First, start by dealing with inner insecurities and anxieties. You don’t have to eradicate them completely to become more social, you just need to get to a point in which you can effectively manage them.

If you feel that you’re not acceptable or interesting enough, work to tackle these emotions. Make a list of all positive things about you and start working on cultivating a more positive self-image. If you need some help, recruit some close friends to work on buffing up your self-esteem.

How do you get a social life?

When you feel you’re ready, start engaging in more conversations, even with people you don’t know. Take every chance to be around people that you find interesting and inspiring. When you can, try to share something about yourself with the group.

You could also join a club or class. The goal is to surround yourself with people of similar interests. This will help you open up and embrace your innate sociability.

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How can an introvert be more sociable?

Being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re anti-social by default. That’s a common misconception and one that needs to be addressed.

Being introverted simply means you gain more energy from being alone than you do being around others. What this means is that as an introvert, you must build your alone time into social interactions to ensure you’re taking care of your emotional needs.

When out in a social setting, make sure there’s a place you can escape to where you can be on your own for a bit. This may be a quiet upstairs bedroom, a place outside, or even simply taking a walk around the block.

There’s nothing wrong with letting the people you’re with know that you need to take a break. Remind them that it’s nothing personal and that you simply need some time to yourself.

How can I be socially confident?

There are several things you can do to actively increase your social confidence.

First, work on your posture. As they say, fake it till you make it! Stand and walk with a straight back and your head held high.

Even if you don’t feel like it, do your best to maintain a level of eye contact in social interactions. And cultivate a more open, welcoming body posture when interacting with others. 

How can I be more sociable at school?

School is an excellent place to practice social skills. You might want to join a sports or art club, depending on your interests, and connect with other students there.

Also, start spending time with a wider range of students. It might feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get used to it.

If you’re invited to go somewhere, accept the invitation! You never know what sorts of interesting people you might meet.

Final thoughts

Becoming more social doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process that takes time.

But the more you open up, the more benefits you’ll reap and the more satisfying and fulfilling your life will become.

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What’s the most fulfilling thing about your social life? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

by Mindvalley
Mindvalley is creating a global school that delivers transformational education for all ages. Powered by community. Fueled by fun. We are dedicated to ensuring that humans live happier, healthier, and more fulfilled lives by plugging in the gaps that conventional education failed to teach us. We do this by organising real-world events around the world and producing world-class quality programmes in several areas of transformation, including mind, body, and performance.

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