I’m living in one of the most visited places in Bali.
This paradise of vegan food, sunshine, beach, and ocean is called Canggu – a blossoming area on the south coast of the island.
Canggu doesn’t only get you into surf and yoga but it also teaches you how to be more patient.
It’s a utopia for travelers from all around the world, but once you veer from the main road of attraction, your mornings can quickly turn into a nightmare.
Because there is nothing worse than the insurmountable gap between the two sides of the city connected by one famous street called The Shortcut.
Honestly, I´m not sure if this name is still suited considering the fact that you might be stuck in between rice fields for 25 minutes without moving a centimeter and risking your life being hit by a car.
The shortcut era has come to a new level. You definitely don’t want to be part of the famous Canggu shortcut fails.
Yet, the necessity of using this road taught me an important lesson, how to be more patient.
Why You Want To Be More Patient And Less Stressed
Wouldn’t we all want to know how to be more patient in order to be a bit less stressed?
Let’s take a quick look at some statistics here so that we can really understand the problem I’m talking about:
- Only 40 percent of Americans rate their health as very good or excellent
- In the past year, 74% of people have felt so stressed they have been overwhelmed or unable to cope
- Stress results in as much as $300 billion in lost productivity
Stress has become a worldwide epidemic and more than ever people are suffering from it. Yet, ironically so, we are also seeking stress.
You might be thinking, “Seeking Stress? She must be crazy!”
Nope, I’m not.
Stress is nothing more than a combination of hormones and signals sent to your brain to be more alert. Which sounds great when you are in a dangerous life-threatening situation, right?
But I think we can agree, nowadays there are not so many tigers hunting us.
And yet we keep forcing our bodies to experience the same rush of adrenaline.
Let’s be honest, who doesn’t enjoy Disneyland’s roller coasters and a bit of cliff jumping?
Once in a while, that’s fine and your body can handle the stress you are putting on it.
The point is, once in a while!
Yet, the opposite is happening. Every single day, multiple times throughout the day we experience stress.
How To Diagnose Yourself With The Millennial No Patience Disease
When I ask you, is your way to work and the traffic you might be stuck in dangerous? Will it make a difference in the long run if you launch your website today or tomorrow? Is it risky to wait 5 minutes for the bus?
You’ll reply no to all these questions, yet your actions show the contrary.
Have you ever wondered why waiting has become a contagious disease you try to avoid?
I have because I could no longer handle being infected with impatience.
Every time I would go to the beach and the waves weren’t good enough, my day turned into an apocalyptic scenario.
Being stuck on the shortcut and late for dinner ruined my entire evening and even when I arrived at the restaurant, I couldn’t get rid of that annoying feeling of frustration and failure about things out of my control.
That’s when I diagnosed myself as blind and started the journey to look for my eyes.
On that journey, I found the concept of seeing.
We Don’t See With The Eyes
We don’t see with the eyes, rather, we see through our consciousness.
Most of us forget that we are gifted because our eyes make us lazy. We rely on the most obvious and consider truth whatever we see right in front of our noses.
Vision requires more than a pair of new glasses. We let ourselves be guided by impulsive reactions and ignore everything outside a radius of 5 meters to the right and 5 to the left.
People are disturbed not by a thing, but by their perception of a thing.
Seeing begins when you learn how to be more patient and start using your consciousness.
Have you ever wondered what’s beyond the horizon?
A friend once told me the story of a seed that turns into a forest. It goes something like this:
Most people you hand a seed to and ask what they see will say, “this is a seed”.
The visionary, on the other hand, will reply, “I see a seed that turns into a plant, a plant that turns into a tree, a tree that turns into a forest, and a forest that will go far beyond everything I am able to list right now.”
Being A Visionary Requires Patience
It requires time to understand
how to be more patient in order to plant those seeds.
It’s important to know that planting and harvesting don’t happen simultaneously. Life is a process of learning, growing and investing.
It is time for us to discover the simple roadmap to our patience.
How to be more patient whenever you feel like exploding
An investment in personal growth can be as easy as using traffic to practice gratitude for everything happening around you.
Patience is definitely one of the key elements of self-development and requires as much practice as everything else when it comes to your personal journey.
Weirdly enough we constantly want to rush this part of the journey and adapt to our fast-paced environment.
4 Magical Questions To Tame Yourself
Well, not today.
I invite you to use one week and every time you find yourself biting your nails, being restless and stressing about time, ask yourself these 4 questions:
1. How does the situation I am in look like?
Describe the physical situation you are in by asking yourself this question.
This will give you a clear idea about location and time.
2. What is the origin of the emotion I am feeling right now?
Find the reason for your feeling of impatience.
Usually, we only consider the most obvious thing to blame for our feelings, in this case, the traffic. But isn’t there more than a bunch of cars and scooters that make me and you feel anxious?
For me, it is the fear of the consequences in the future. For example, being late.
This leads us to our next question.
3. What is the worst case scenario that will result from the situation you are stuck in right now?
This evil thing called the future seems to be a reoccurring problem in our lives.
We keep cursing the future before we are even in it. We create horror scenarios and stress our bodies for no reason.
If you really think about it, eventually you will agree, even the worst case scenario is not as bad as you think it is.
The next step is to find gratitude for things you usually overlook.
4. What do I see that I can be grateful for right now?
Take a little moment, look around and ask yourself this question, “What do I see that I can be grateful for right now?”
You might meet the eyes of a little child smiling at you and reminding you to be a bit more playful throughout the rest of your day.
Or perhaps you’ll hear your favorite song playing on the radio, bringing up memories and reminding you of friendships.
You´ll even be able to more properly read the signs of the universe.
Use this time to be more receptive of the messages you receive and then implement them into the rest of your day.
Why Bob Dylan Knows How To Be More Patient And How You Can Be The Same Way
“How many times can a man turn his head and pretend that he just doesn’t see?”
Don´t worry, I won´t start analyzing Bob Dylan´s famous Blowin in the wind song because I think we can all agree it’s a bit cult. But there is more truth in those lines than you might think upon first sight.
How many times have you taken the same road over and over again on autopilot missing out on people’s smiles, blossoming nature and the smell of your local bakery?
Why are you rushing?
To achieve a goal you set for yourself as quickly as possible, to then maybe be happy in the future?
Who guarantees your future happiness once you arrive where you want to be?
The journey is what makes life beautiful and all of us should start trying to create more happiness on this journey by being patient.
Stop playing The Fast and The Furious in real life and return to your essence of being.
The Power Of Mindfulness When You Want To Be More Patient
Being means patience in the present moment.
Even when you think you can´t help your impatience, there is always a way for you to be more patient.
Trust me, I know how hard it can be to change your way of thinking once the adrenaline starts rushing through your veins.
What has helped me and will help you as well, is a regular meditation practice.
It is much easier to train your instinctual behavior through visualizations and meditation in a safe and calm environment.
Being patient is nothing more than being mindful the same ways we are in meditation.
The best way to learn how to be more patient is to make yourself wait. Take some time in the morning and practice being patient while meditating.
The Mindvalley team loves to guide you through the process and provides you with a free All You Need Meditation for the perfect start into your day and explains Everything You Want to Know About Mindfulness Meditation.
Have you had any success with being more patient? Do you have any tips you’d like to share? Please let us know in the comment section below!