Created by our dear friend and former Mindvalley Team member, Luminita Saviuc, this meditation is a piece from the heart.
It is taken from her original article “15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy”, which was one of the most viral personal growth blog posts in history, with over 1.2 MILLION shares on Facebook.
The meditation is designed to help you identify the 15 practices, beliefs and habits that may be preventing you from achieving happiness.
5 Destructive Habits You Should Replace Now
Here are the first 5 habits of the 15 things you should give up (check this article out to see the full list):
1. Give Up On Always Being Right
Most of us don’t like feeling wrong. In fact, many of us are so uncomfortable with that idea that we’ll sacrifice everything else that matters to us to feel right. We’ll sacrifice our relationships, our happiness, and our kindness to make a point.
But is that really what you want?
Ultimately, our fights to prove our point will get in the way of living the life we want to live.
2. Give Up Your Need For Control
This can be challenging because we all want to feel safe. Ultimately, though, the world does not revolve around you and what makes you comfortable. When you let go of your desire for control over relationships, events, or situations, you’ll be able to respond more gracefully.
The desire for control is understandable, but giving in to it won’t make you happy.
3. Give Up On Blame
Will Smith uploaded an amazing video on the difference between fault and responsibility. If you haven’t watched it, we highly suggest you do. Because here’s the thing: Responsibility is necessary. Blame is useless.
What do we mean by that? Take it from Will:
It really don’t matter whose fault it is that something is broken if it’s your responsibility to fix it. For example, it’s not somebody’s fault if their father was an abusive alcoholic. But it’s for damn sure their responsibility to figure out how they’re going to deal with those traumas and make a life. It’s not your fault if your partner cheated and ruined your marriage. But it’s for damn sure your responsibility to figure out how to take that pain. How to overcome that and make a happy life for yourself.
4. Give Up On Self-Defeating Self-Talk
Oh boy. Here’s one that hurts: So many of us hold ourselves back because we give in to negative self-talk. After all, the mind’s job is to protect us. That’s why we have a negativity bias.
That said, this is where the practice of mindfulness comes in. In fact, meditations like the one above help us remember not to follow every train of thought that rolls by. Not every thought is meaningful or true. You are larger than the sum of your thoughts.
5. Give Up On Your Limiting Beliefs
Many of the beliefs we have about our own limitations and our inability to achieve what we want are false. These beliefs have their roots in our childhoods, where many of us were told what is possible for us and the world.
But I guarantee you that the people who change the world don’t give in to them.
Yes, we all have limiting beliefs sometimes. The people who get ahead are also the people who dedicate their lives to weeding out their limiting beliefs. They replace them with healthier ones that empower them to reach their goals.
What habit do you want to replace on this list?
Share in the comments below.